Give women room.

Don’t see a new woman more than once or twice a week for the first several weeks (Especially if she’s unusually attractive).

By limiting the contact you have you can easily create more interest in her than if you’re always available.

Guys that never seem to go away are rarely able to continue dating beyond the first few dates because they come across as needy and wussified.

Women appreciate men more if the guy can’t be pigeon-holed into a category.

Women don’t feel ATTRACTION for a guy that they can easily control.

It just doesn’t happen.

Women aren’t attracted to wussies.

When you are first dating, or about to start dating, be sure to have a plan, an attitude and enough confidence to carry you through the beginning stages of dating.

The real problem comes when guys go overboard and start using gifts and favors TOO MUCH, and start communicating to the woman that WE ARE OWNED BY HER. If you’re going to do wonderful things for a woman that you care about, make sure that you do things that MAKE AN IMPACT.

And make sure that they AREN’T PREDICTABLE. If you do something that says “I was thinking about you, and I wanted you to have a great experience” it will make FAR more of an impact than an expensive gift that wasn’t chosen with care.

But as I mentioned, don’t OVERDO the gifts and favors… don’t ever become PREDICTABLE. And, interestingly enough, this can be a great test to see how a woman can handle extra-nice treatment.
If she starts acting overly demanding and spoiled after you give her a gift of thoughtful experience, then you might have a damaged woman on your hands. Pay attention.

Remember: The point isn’t to have something cute to say to women, the POINT is getting her email/number, etc.

So don’t worry about being too cute.

Just worry about getting to the next STEP.

Here, I’ll get you started with a few ideas: “You love me.” “This relationship isn’t going to work.” “Don’t turn into a stalker, OK?” …there’s a list of three to get you going.

The MAGICAL thing about these types of responses is that they can be used in almost ANY situation.

Let’s say you’re teasing a girl, and she’s laughing and hitting you. You look at her with a serious face and say “You love me.”

Perfect.

Or you could use one of the other “standards” I’ve listed above.

The POINT is that you need to have a few STANDARD things to say in ANY situation.

Practice the above three until you can USE them.

Then take a few minutes and dedicate that GENIUS MIND of yours to coming up with a few more.

Next thing you know, you’ll actually be saying something BACK in these situations.

If you want to pursue a ‘relationship’ relationship, then you might want to actually start doing a sweet, romantic thing or two every once in awhile.

A card, a flower, etc. is all it takes to communicate your message. But use them wisely, and don’t start acting like a needy wussy!

Also, when you start saying things like “I was thinking about you”, “I really like spending time with you”, and other lovey talk it says the same thing.

Again, use sparingly… especially with independent women!

And ultimately, if you want to actually have a real, honest-to-goodness relationship, then tell her how you feel about her.

If you think she’s worth having a relationship with, then you’re going to need to take the risk at some point of telling her.

Once a guy is in the ‘friends’ category it’s not easy for him to get out.

In fact, I tell guys to just walk away and forget about it, because it’s such a pain to try to change.

But there’s great news!

There are so many women running around on this planet that it doesn’t matter.

Move on! Don’t get all hung up and puppy-like chasing after one woman, they see through it and know you for the wimp you’re not supposed to be.

The ironic part is that when you do take the ‘I can move on’ attitude and stop treating a woman who only likes you as a friend like she’s special, she’ll often change her mind and start liking you.

First of all, Cocky and Funny isn’t a super-secret, covert manipulation tactic. It’s a way of flirting, teasing, and interacting with women that they enjoy.

Second, I’ve found that the only women who DON’T respond well to it are women who are UPTIGHT, women who aren’t at all interested, or overly SHY women who are intimidated (in which case you can usually just tone it down and have fun with them too).

That’s my personal experience. Smart, nerdy girls like the ones you’re attracted to (I’m happy you have that market cornered, by the way) should LOVE to spar with you and will probably LOVE your Cocky and Funny attitude. Keep it intellectual.

There will ALWAYS be situations in life when things don’t work for you. Tiger Woods screws up a lot of shots, and he’s the best in the world at golf. Michael Jordan misses a lot of shots, and he’s the best in the world at BBall.

We don’t live in an ideal testing lab, we live in reality.

Don’t worry about what won’t work, and find what will.

The thing to watch for to keep from going too far with Cocky and Funny is a woman getting VISIBLY ANGRY or asking you to leave. If that happens, walk away.

If you’re getting ignored on instant messenger, then you’re probably being just a bit too pushy when chatting with women.

Lean back.

Tease.

Make a comment online, then say “I have to run”… Don’t act like you want her attention.

Relax.

And did I mention that you need to relax?

Did you hear the story about the old bull and the young bull standing on the hill? The young bull says “Hey let’s run down there and have sex with one of those cows!”

Old bull looks at him and says “Let’s walk down there and have sex with all of them.”

Ponder. Reflect. Repeat.