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		<title>How To Achieve Ultimate Success With Women Starting With The First Date</title>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;">Let me ask you a question: What is &#8220;SUCCESS&#8221; to you when it  comes to women?</span></strong><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;"><strong><strong><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.jdoqocy.com/click-3154450-10741310?sid=blog-articles" target="_blank" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.jdoqocy.com/click-3154450-10741310?sid=blog-articles&amp;referer=');"> </a></strong></strong></p>
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<p></a></strong></strong></strong><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;">If I asked you to give me a detailed explanation of EXACTLY how your life would  be if you had ULTIMATE SUCCESS with women, could you do it?<br />
Sure, most guys would say something like &#8220;Success to me would be being able to  walk up to any woman and get a date with her&#8221;&#8230; or &#8220;Success to me would be  dating as many women as I wanted&#8221;&#8230; or &#8220;Success to me would be having a really  sexy girlfriend&#8221;, etc.</span></p>
<p></span></p>
<p><strong>These are the kinds of answers I hear when I ask guys this question.</strong></p>
<p>But there&#8217;s a PROBLEM with these answers. <span style="color: #ff0000;">NONE OF THEM REALLY MEAN ANYTHING.</span></p>
<p>If you learn how to approach any woman and get a date, you&#8217;ll soon find that you  don&#8217;t know what to DO once you&#8217;re actually out ON the dates&#8230; how to take  things to a physical level, how to kiss her, etc&#8230;</p>
<p>If you start dating several women at a time, you&#8217;ll quickly realize that it&#8217;s a  MAJOR challenge to juggle all of those relationships and maintain a happy  life&#8230;<br />
If you find a really sexy girlfriend, there&#8217;s a good chance that she&#8217;ll have a  whole bunch of personal issues and problems that you never anticipated.</p>
<p align="justify"><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;">You have to be careful what you wish for in life, because you&#8217;ll often get it.  I&#8217;ve found that <strong>guys usually make TWO major mistakes</strong> then it comes to SUCCESS  with women:<br />
1) Most guys haven&#8217;t really thought through what success means to them in  detail.<br />
2) Most guys base their personal idea of success on what OTHERS want, and not  what THEY want for themselves.</span></p>
<p>In fact, I was one of the guys that made BOTH of these mistakes. I can remember  when I first decided to ONCE AND FOR ALL learn how to be &#8220;successful&#8221; with  women. I had this idea in my mind that if I could just learn how to get women&#8217;s  phone numbers quickly and easily that I would be successful beyond my wildest  dreams.</p>
<p><strong>So I went to work on figuring it out.</strong> I probably spent a good six or twelve  months trying all kinds of different tricks to get women&#8217;s phone numbers  quickly. <strong>And I figured out some great techniques.</strong></p>
<p>I can literally get a woman&#8217;s number within a few minutes of meeting her. But  once I learned this skill, I was hit with a MAJOR realization: Most of the women  I was meeting never turned into DATES. They either didn&#8217;t return my calls,  refused my requests, or just plain flaked out on me.</p>
<p><span style="color: #ff0000;">It was VERY frustrating.</span></p>
<p>The other problem I had was looking around at what OTHER guys were doing and  saying &#8220;I want to be able to do what HE does&#8230;&#8221; or &#8220;I want to date the kinds of  women HE dates&#8221;. And I secretly had this idea that if I knew how to date HOT  women that all my friends would like me more and think I was a really cool guy.</p>
<p><span style="color: #ff0000;">Well guess what?</span></p>
<p>First of all, just because another guy is doing something doesn&#8217;t mean that it  would make ME happy. In fact, I realized that in many cases it wasn&#8217;t even  making HIM happy. I couldn&#8217;t help comparing my success and the women I was  dating with other guys, and the women they were dating.</p>
<p><span style="color: #ff0000;">But it was a trap.</span></p>
<p>The more a person looks at what OTHERS are doing and focusing on that, the less  satisfied they are with what THEY are doing themselves. And as far as other guys  thinking I was &#8220;cool&#8221; because I was dating attractive women&#8230; WRONG AGAIN. Guys  (even friends) usually envy you and resent the fact that you have success and  they don&#8217;t. Especially when it comes to really attractive women.</p>
<p><span style="color: #ff0000;">So much for those losing strategies.</span></p>
<p><strong>SO WHAT&#8217;S THE ANSWER?</strong></p>
<p>Well, it&#8217;s taken me a few years to really put all the puzzle pieces together and  figure out how to resolve these issues.</p>
<p align="justify"><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;">Here&#8217;s what I&#8217;ve come up with:<br />
<strong>1) REALLY THINK ABOUT WHAT SUCCESS MEANS TO YOU IN DETAIL, AND WRITE IT DOWN.</strong></span></p>
<p align="justify"><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;">Take the time (even if it takes days or weeks&#8230; or longer) and think through  what you want for yourself. Do a little &#8220;self examination&#8221; (no, not down there),  and be honest with yourself. See if you can figure out where your idea of what  &#8220;success&#8221; is came from. Did it come from watching movies? Did it come from guys  you know? Where did you get your model of what &#8220;success with women&#8221; is?</span></p>
<p><strong>Once you&#8217;ve figured out where some of your ideas came from, then think about  what you want.</strong></p>
<p align="justify"><span style="font-family: Cambria; color: #ff0000; font-size: medium;">Think about your life and your lifestyle.</span></p>
<p align="justify"><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;">Instead of looking at Playboy and thinking to yourself &#8220;I&#8217;d sure like to have  seven blonde girlfriends in my bed&#8221;, try thinking about what would make you  HAPPY on an ongoing basis. Take some time to write down the things you like in a  woman. Write down what you DON&#8217;T like. Get a clear picture in your mind of how  you&#8217;d like your life to be, and what kind of success with women would make your  life more enjoyable.</span></p>
<p align="justify"><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;">After researching this topic for a few years now, I&#8217;ve come to the opinion that  most guys (80%-90%) actually want to have a great long-term relationship with a  fantastic woman.<br />
Sure, some guys want to date around and sleep with a lot of women, but the  majority of guys would really like to meet an exceptional woman and share a  great connection&#8230; long term.</span></p>
<p align="justify"><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;"><strong>But guess what?</strong><br />
You&#8217;re not going to walk outside after you&#8217;re finished reading this and find  that particular woman waiting on the corner for you.</span></p>
<p align="justify"><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;">In fact, you&#8217;re probably not going to meet her anytime soon.<br />
If you want to find a REALLY exceptional woman that is beautiful, intelligent,  funny, emotionally stable, financially independent, loving, etc. then you&#8217;re  probably going to have to date QUITE A FEW women in order to FIND her.</span></p>
<p align="justify"><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;">And when you DO find her, you can bet your ass that she&#8217;s IN DEMAND. She  probably has MANY guys who are interested in her on an ongoing basis, and she  KNOWS that she has options.</span></p>
<p align="justify"><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;">TRANSLATION: You&#8217;d better have your sh** together when you do meet her, and  you&#8217;d better not be acting like an idiot.<br />
So think through what success means, what you want, what you don&#8217;t want, and how  you&#8217;d like your life to look ideally when it comes to women and dating.</span></p>
<p><strong>2) LEARN THE RARE SKILL OF MAKING WOMEN FEEL THE MAGICAL EMOTION CALLED  ATTRACTION.</strong></p>
<p align="justify"><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;">I have spent a long time now searching for the secrets of how ATTRACTION works.  You&#8217;d probably guess that something as IMPORTANT and as POWERFUL as ATTRACTION  would be well-researched and widely written about.</span></p>
<p align="justify"><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;">Well guess what?<br />
I can&#8217;t find even ONE good book, audio tape series, seminar or website that  describes it.</span></p>
<p align="justify"><strong><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;">NOT EVEN ONE.</span></strong></p>
<p align="justify"><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;">I&#8217;ve read all kinds of &#8220;opinions&#8221; on attraction, but when I really compare what  I read and hear to my own personal knowledge and experience, I always shake my  head and say to myself &#8220;No, that&#8217;s not right&#8221;. And by the way, if you&#8217;ve found a  book, tape, seminar, or website, etc. that lays it all out, let me know. I think  I&#8217;ve reviewed just about everything out there and met a lot of the experts on  the topic&#8230; but maybe I&#8217;ve missed something.</span></p>
<p>The point is that I think that success in this area of life basically ALL comes  down to understanding ATTRACTION. I&#8217;m not talking about being &#8220;physically  attractive&#8221;, I&#8217;m talking about the <strong>EMOTION of ATTRACTION</strong>. If a woman feels  ATTRACTION for a man, then nothing else matters.</p>
<p>His looks don&#8217;t matter, his income doesn&#8217;t matter, his age doesn&#8217;t matter&#8230;  nothing matters. On the other hand, if a woman DOESN&#8217;T feel ATTRACTION for a  man, then nothing else matters!<br />
<strong>His looks, income, age, etc. just don&#8217;t matter. Nothing he can do can make her  feel that emotion.</strong></p>
<p>Sure, a woman can &#8220;fall for&#8221; a guy over time. But in these rare cases it&#8217;s not  because of ATTRACTION. It&#8217;s because she starts to feel an AFFECTION for him, and  settles for a long-term relationship. Incidentally, this usually involves a man  who pursues a woman, buys her gifts and dinners, behaves in a way that puts her  value above his, etc. And, incidentally, it usually involves a woman who feels  like she&#8217;s SETTLING.<br />
BUT, if you know how to make a woman feel that amazing and unique emotion called  ATTRACTION, then you will be in control of your dating success&#8230; and YOU can  decide on and control what happens to you.</p>
<p align="justify"><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;"><strong>A man who has his life together and actually understands how to make a woman  feel ATTRACTION is FAR more rare than a beautiful woman.</strong><br />
<span style="color: #ff0000;">Think about that.</span></span></p>
<p>An exceptional man who understands ATTRACTION is FAR more rare, valuable, and  desirable than even the most BEAUTIFUL woman.</p>
<p align="justify"><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;">If you don&#8217;t believe me, then ASK some beautiful women how many men like this  they&#8217;ve known in their lifetimes. They&#8217;ll count them all on one hand. You&#8217;ll  see.</span></p>
<p>And the best part, in my personal opinion, is that it doesn&#8217;t take any unusual  talents, physical attributes, or large sums of money to learn these skills.</p>
<p align="justify"><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;">All it takes is an understanding of how ATTRACTION works, a desire to learn it,  and the discipline to learn, practice, and improve over time.</span></p>
<p align="justify"><span style="font-family: Cambria; color: #ff0000; font-size: medium;">What&#8217;s a good way to get started?</span></p>
<p align="justify"><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;">Well, you&#8217;re doing it. I think that reading these articles is one of the best  ways to get a handle on how to make women feel ATTRACTION. What&#8217;s an even BETTER  way?</span></p>
<p align="justify"><span style="font-family: Cambria; font-size: medium;">I&#8217;ve taken knowledge from various fields&#8230; from brain research and psychology  to animal behavior and mating patterns&#8230; and combined it with my real-world  personal experience of figuring out what works.<br />
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