Dear Rob,
I’m 23 and I just moved to NYC.

I recently started hanging out with a guy I met in high school then lost touch with completely.

I randomly got in touch with him about a month ago then for about 2 weeks straight we were texting each other almost everyday and hung out a few times.

Mostly platonic but a little cuddling involved.

We both admitted to having a bit of a crush on each other but I told him that I want to be single for a while because I just got out of a 4 year relationship.

He seemed totally cool with that.

Anyway, we hung out Wednesday night and it’s now Tuesday the following week. He hasn’t called me at all and only responded short replies to the 2 text messages I sent this week.

I really just want him as a friend, we had so much fun together. What’s going on?
Thanks, Susie

Hi Susie,
Your head isn’t on straight, is it? Cuddling leads to something and you’ve been leading this guy on with these “platonic cuddling” sessions.

Do you think that while he’s been holding you tight he’s just been too much of a wussy to push his hands down your pants?

He wanted more and you’re not willing.

It’s time to accept that you’re just not in the same place. Just don’t ask him to wait for you, it’ll kill him, he’s shown he wants nmore just by being with you… too bad he’s scared to move forward with you, he might have changed your mind about himself anf your attitudee about men in general too.

And do move on from him, you need to be in the right place before getting involved with an other guy even if “cuddling” seems safe and right at the time, which is just torture to most guys out there.
Best Wishes,
Rob.