Second, I’ve found that the only women who DON’T respond well to it are women who are UPTIGHT, women who aren’t at all interested, or overly SHY women who are intimidated (in which case you can usually just tone it down and have fun with them too).

That’s my personal experience. Smart, nerdy girls like the ones you’re attracted to (I’m happy you have that market cornered, by the way) should LOVE to spar with you and will probably LOVE your Cocky and Funny attitude. Keep it intellectual.

There will ALWAYS be situations in life when things don’t work for you. Tiger Woods screws up a lot of shots, and he’s the best in the world at golf. Michael Jordan misses a lot of shots, and he’s the best in the world at BBall.

We don’t live in an ideal testing lab, we live in reality.

Don’t worry about what won’t work, and find what will.

The thing to watch for to keep from going too far with Cocky and Funny is a woman getting VISIBLY ANGRY or asking you to leave. If that happens, walk away.

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The idea is simple: We humans don’t want what everyone else has… we want what everyone else has AND MORE. In the context of women and dating, it goes like this:

WOMEN AREN’T ATTRACTED TO GUYS THEY PERCEIVE AS AVERAGE.

Remember, ATTRACTION doesn’t make logical sense… Women don’t say “Oh, he’s a kind, honest, loyal type of guy from a good family… AND THAT REALLY TURNS ME ON.”

Nope.

Women say things like:
“He’s sexy”… “There’s chemistry between us”… “I really feel something for him”… etc.

And also remember: If a woman feels a strong ATTRACTION for you, then the rest of the equation isn’t as important. If she feels it, she’ll go out of her way to find good reasons to be with you…
even if you’re not her “physical type”.

On the other hand, no amount of gifts, favors, dinners, kindness, or a good family will make her feel ATTRACTION… at best these things can only make her feel a more “loyal” kind of love.

So if women don’t like “average” guys and the most important thing is to make her feel ATTRACTION towards you, then how do you do it?

I thought you’d never ask…

First, let’s talk about the word “average” and what it REALLY means.

As far as women are concerned, and especially the ATTRACTIVE ones, men are EVERYWHERE. They’re like cars. Every once in awhile one stands out and makes you say “Oh, that one is nice.”

A lot of guys take this concept too far and say “Well, I’m not rich, and I’m not famous… so no really hot woman is going to find me attractive.”

My experience and research has shown me that women are far more ATTRACTED to things like attitude, confidence, body language, humor, etc. than looks or money. Sure, those things might INITIALLY get a woman’s attention, and there are those women that will only settle for a rich or unusually handsome guy… but this is the extreme minority.

In fact, it’s very easy to be seen as “above average” if you know what women are looking for, and you know how to deliver.

Remember the danger: If you are perceived as “average” early on, then a switch goes off in her mind, and the game will be over before it’s even begun.

So let’s do a little exercise, let’s figure out two things:

1) What most guys do that women see as “average”, and…

2) What you can do to instantly be seen as “ABOVE average” and, most importantly, ATTRACTIVE.

First, let’s talk about what most guys do in most situations (more specifically, what most guys do WRONG). Here are some of the things that I’ve seen…

If the setting is a bar or a club, most guys will either say “Can I buy you a drink?”, “Wanna dance?”, or “Hey baby, how YOU doin’?”… or they do crass things like stare at women with wanting eyes or grab them as they walk by.

If the setting is a public place, like maybe a woman working at a clothing store, a waitress, or some other similar high-traffic situation, most guys will ask a lame question like “Do you have a boyfriend?” or “Can I take you out sometime?”

Ugh.

These kinds of approaches can only result in you being seen as another lame, average guy.

Here are a few ideas to try instead…

If you’re in a bar or club setting, try asking a woman or a group of women THEIR OPINION on something. I personally like this one:

“Hey, my friends and I were talking and we need a female perspective… What do you ladies think about this new trend of women being proud of paying their own way and buying their own things? Like the Destiny’s Child song “Independent Woman?”

Women will usually ENTHUSIASTICALLY join into a conversation like this one. (I personally like this topic because it starts off by talking about women taking care of themselves in a positive light, which sets the stage for not having to pay for a lot of things right up front!)

If you’re out in a public place, at a store where a woman is working or some other high-traffic place, you might try something like this:

After chatting about whatever business you’re doing there, say “Hey, are you single?”

I love this question! It’s such a shocker, and it says all the right things. Most guys say “Do you have a boyfriend?” which is the usual question. “Are you single?” is much more forward, and most women have to do a double take to think for a moment.

If she pauses, I say “I’ll take that as a YES…”, which is pretty funny and usually gets a laugh.

In either of these cases, it’s now time to get the digits and get out. You already know that I’m not a fan of standing around and trying to keep a conversation going for any longer than you have to.

So after two or three minutes of small talk and general conversation, just go into the “3 Minute Phone Number” close that you’ve learned in an earlier newsletter or in my book…

Say “It was nice talking to you, I’m going to get back to my friends… (or shopping, or whatever)” and as you turn away, turn back and say “Do you have email…?” etc.

These two scenarios are obviously very simple, and also very easy. I’ve had guys say to me “Well, there’s nothing really that different about those approaches.”

Ah, but there is.

The most important difference is that you’re doing something COMPLETELY different than the other 47 guys who have approached her that day…
and you also know EXACTLY what you’re going to do and say and the conversation progresses.

Of course, another thing you can do that will INSTANTLY separate you from the rest of the crowd is to use the idea of being “Cocky and Funny”, which I teach in my eBook “Double Your Dating“.

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This very unique approach has helped many of my thousands of readers to dramatically increase their success with women… and to be no longer seen as AVERAGE by women.

If you haven’t learned how to use the almost MAGICAL formula of being Cocky & Funny, or any of the literally hundreds of other techniques I teach, then you really need to get yourself a copy of my online eBook.

You can download it here and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now. [This book and the three bonuses that come with it are the FOUNDATION for success with women. Everything you read in these articles will make more sense once you have read the book]

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And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes…

MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”

Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted “nice” guys?
Of course you have.
Just like me, I’m sure you’ve had attractive female friends that always seemed to date “jerks”… but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.
What’s going on here?
It’s actually very simple…
Women don’t base their choices of men on how “nice” a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn’t make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn’t make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn’t make a lot of logical sense, and it’s hard to ACCEPT… but GET OVER IT.
Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you’ll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

MISTAKE #2: Trying To “Convince Her To Like You”

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like… but she’s just notinterested?
Right! They try to “convince” the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you… YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN “FEELS” WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”.
Think about it.
If a woman doesn’t “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being “reasonable” with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn’t interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.

MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman’s “approval” or “permission”.
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them… EVER.
Don’t get me wrong here.
You don’t have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well means “always getting her approval and permission for things”, think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her…

MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts

How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn’t treat her even HALF as well as you did?
If you’re like me, then you’ve had it happen a LOT.
Well guess what?
It’s only NATURAL when this happens…
That’s right, I said NATURAL.
When you do these things, you send a clear message:
“I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I’m going to try to buy your attention and affection”.
Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That’s right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

MISTAKE #5: Sharing “How You Feel” Too Early In The Relationship With Her

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they “feel” too early on.
Attractive women are rare.
And they get a LOT of attention from men.
Most men don’t realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE
An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.
And guess what?
Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.
That’s right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying “You know, I really, REALLY like you” after one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that you’re just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast… and can’t control themselves.
Don’t do it. Lean back. Relax.
There’s a much better way…

MISTAKE #6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women

Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men… and they’re attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
But it’s not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY guy can learn how…

MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks

One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they’ve even gotten started… because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money… or guys who are a certain height… or guys who are a certain age.
And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.
But MOST women are far more interested in a man’s personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet…
And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.
YOU DO NOT have to “settle” for a woman just because you aren’t rich, tall, or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women

Earlier I mentioned that it’s a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.
Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.
Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Another bad idea…
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over… Women aren’t attracted to Wussies!

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women

Now I’m going to blow your mind…
A woman ALWAYS knows what you’re thinking.
Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That’s ten TIMES.
I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you’re out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.
And if you don’t know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won’t help!
And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating…
Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical… everything.
If you don’t know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up… and LOSE EVERYTHING.
And you KNOW it.
It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman… from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP

This is the biggest mistake of all.
This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.
I know, guys don’t like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don’t like to ask for help.
Hey, I’ve been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women…
About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn’t know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.
It frustrated the hell out of me.
One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn’t get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night… right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.
I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I’ve dated models, I’ve dated actresses, and I’ve dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.
It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling… like I don’t know how to meet women… and I might wind up alone.
I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.
I’ve written a book on the topic, and I’ve done seminars on both coasts of the United States… and taught tens of thousands of men all around the world.

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Well, that’s not the case.

I’ve spent a lot of time, effort, and energy writing this eBook. I wanted to design and create a program that ANY guy could easily understand and start using IMMEDIATELY to meet and date more women… without having to lie, do dishonest things, or be “manipulative”.

I now believe that ANY man can be more successful with women and dating, and I get emails every day with success stories from guys who are using this program to meet and date wonderful women.

I know, I know… an ebook that can teach a regular guy how to be more successful in the dating world? No way.

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