First of all, Cocky and Funny isn’t a super-secret, covert manipulation tactic. It’s a way of flirting, teasing, and interacting with women that they enjoy.

Second, I’ve found that the only women who DON’T respond well to it are women who are UPTIGHT, women who aren’t at all interested, or overly SHY women who are intimidated (in which case you can usually just tone it down and have fun with them too).

That’s my personal experience. Smart, nerdy girls like the ones you’re attracted to (I’m happy you have that market cornered, by the way) should LOVE to spar with you and will probably LOVE your Cocky and Funny attitude. Keep it intellectual.

There will ALWAYS be situations in life when things don’t work for you. Tiger Woods screws up a lot of shots, and he’s the best in the world at golf. Michael Jordan misses a lot of shots, and he’s the best in the world at BBall.

We don’t live in an ideal testing lab, we live in reality.

Don’t worry about what won’t work, and find what will.

The thing to watch for to keep from going too far with Cocky and Funny is a woman getting VISIBLY ANGRY or asking you to leave. If that happens, walk away.

I want to talk about an obvious point that’s taken me a few years to really notice.

The idea is simple: We humans don’t want what everyone else has… we want what everyone else has AND MORE. In the context of women and dating, it goes like this:

WOMEN AREN’T ATTRACTED TO GUYS THEY PERCEIVE AS AVERAGE.

Remember, ATTRACTION doesn’t make logical sense… Women don’t say “Oh, he’s a kind, honest, loyal type of guy from a good family… AND THAT REALLY TURNS ME ON.”

Nope.

Women say things like:
“He’s sexy”… “There’s chemistry between us”… “I really feel something for him”… etc.

And also remember: If a woman feels a strong ATTRACTION for you, then the rest of the equation isn’t as important. If she feels it, she’ll go out of her way to find good reasons to be with you…
even if you’re not her “physical type”.

On the other hand, no amount of gifts, favors, dinners, kindness, or a good family will make her feel ATTRACTION… at best these things can only make her feel a more “loyal” kind of love.

So if women don’t like “average” guys and the most important thing is to make her feel ATTRACTION towards you, then how do you do it?

I thought you’d never ask…

First, let’s talk about the word “average” and what it REALLY means.

As far as women are concerned, and especially the ATTRACTIVE ones, men are EVERYWHERE. They’re like cars. Every once in awhile one stands out and makes you say “Oh, that one is nice.”

A lot of guys take this concept too far and say “Well, I’m not rich, and I’m not famous… so no really hot woman is going to find me attractive.”

My experience and research has shown me that women are far more ATTRACTED to things like attitude, confidence, body language, humor, etc. than looks or money. Sure, those things might INITIALLY get a woman’s attention, and there are those women that will only settle for a rich or unusually handsome guy… but this is the extreme minority.

In fact, it’s very easy to be seen as “above average” if you know what women are looking for, and you know how to deliver.

Remember the danger: If you are perceived as “average” early on, then a switch goes off in her mind, and the game will be over before it’s even begun.

So let’s do a little exercise, let’s figure out two things:

1) What most guys do that women see as “average”, and…

2) What you can do to instantly be seen as “ABOVE average” and, most importantly, ATTRACTIVE.

First, let’s talk about what most guys do in most situations (more specifically, what most guys do WRONG). Here are some of the things that I’ve seen…

If the setting is a bar or a club, most guys will either say “Can I buy you a drink?”, “Wanna dance?”, or “Hey baby, how YOU doin’?”… or they do crass things like stare at women with wanting eyes or grab them as they walk by.

If the setting is a public place, like maybe a woman working at a clothing store, a waitress, or some other similar high-traffic situation, most guys will ask a lame question like “Do you have a boyfriend?” or “Can I take you out sometime?”

Ugh.

These kinds of approaches can only result in you being seen as another lame, average guy.

Here are a few ideas to try instead…

If you’re in a bar or club setting, try asking a woman or a group of women THEIR OPINION on something. I personally like this one:

“Hey, my friends and I were talking and we need a female perspective… What do you ladies think about this new trend of women being proud of paying their own way and buying their own things? Like the Destiny’s Child song “Independent Woman?”

Women will usually ENTHUSIASTICALLY join into a conversation like this one. (I personally like this topic because it starts off by talking about women taking care of themselves in a positive light, which sets the stage for not having to pay for a lot of things right up front!)

If you’re out in a public place, at a store where a woman is working or some other high-traffic place, you might try something like this:

After chatting about whatever business you’re doing there, say “Hey, are you single?”

I love this question! It’s such a shocker, and it says all the right things. Most guys say “Do you have a boyfriend?” which is the usual question. “Are you single?” is much more forward, and most women have to do a double take to think for a moment.

If she pauses, I say “I’ll take that as a YES…”, which is pretty funny and usually gets a laugh.

In either of these cases, it’s now time to get the digits and get out. You already know that I’m not a fan of standing around and trying to keep a conversation going for any longer than you have to.

So after two or three minutes of small talk and general conversation, just go into the “3 Minute Phone Number” close that you’ve learned in an earlier newsletter or in my book…

Say “It was nice talking to you, I’m going to get back to my friends… (or shopping, or whatever)” and as you turn away, turn back and say “Do you have email…?” etc.

These two scenarios are obviously very simple, and also very easy. I’ve had guys say to me “Well, there’s nothing really that different about those approaches.”

Ah, but there is.

The most important difference is that you’re doing something COMPLETELY different than the other 47 guys who have approached her that day…
and you also know EXACTLY what you’re going to do and say and the conversation progresses.

Of course, another thing you can do that will INSTANTLY separate you from the rest of the crowd is to use the idea of being “Cocky and Funny”, which I teach in my eBook “Double Your Dating“.

This very unique approach has helped many of my thousands of readers to dramatically increase their success with women… and to be no longer seen as AVERAGE by women.

If you haven’t learned how to use the almost MAGICAL formula of being Cocky & Funny, or any of the literally hundreds of other techniques I teach, then you really need to get yourself a copy of my online eBook.

You can download it here and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now. [This book and the three bonuses that come with it are the FOUNDATION for success with women. Everything you read in these articles will make more sense once you have read the book]

“The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably  Make With Women—  And What To Do About It…”

And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes…

MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”

Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted “nice” guys?
Of course you have.
Just like me, I’m sure you’ve had attractive female friends that always seemed to date “jerks”… but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.
What’s going on here?
It’s actually very simple…
Women don’t base their choices of men on how “nice” a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn’t make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn’t make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn’t make a lot of logical sense, and it’s hard to ACCEPT… but GET OVER IT.
Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you’ll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

MISTAKE #2: Trying To “Convince Her To Like You”

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like… but she’s just notinterested?
Right! They try to “convince” the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you… YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN “FEELS” WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”.
Think about it.
If a woman doesn’t “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being “reasonable” with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn’t interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.

MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman’s “approval” or “permission”.
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them… EVER.
Don’t get me wrong here.
You don’t have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well means “always getting her approval and permission for things”, think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her…

MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts

How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn’t treat her even HALF as well as you did?
If you’re like me, then you’ve had it happen a LOT.
Well guess what?
It’s only NATURAL when this happens…
That’s right, I said NATURAL.
When you do these things, you send a clear message:
“I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I’m going to try to buy your attention and affection”.
Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That’s right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

MISTAKE #5: Sharing “How You Feel” Too Early In The Relationship With Her

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they “feel” too early on.
Attractive women are rare.
And they get a LOT of attention from men.
Most men don’t realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE
An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.
And guess what?
Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.
That’s right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying “You know, I really, REALLY like you” after one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that you’re just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast… and can’t control themselves.
Don’t do it. Lean back. Relax.
There’s a much better way…

MISTAKE #6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women

Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men… and they’re attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
But it’s not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY guy can learn how…

MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks

One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they’ve even gotten started… because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money… or guys who are a certain height… or guys who are a certain age.
And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.
But MOST women are far more interested in a man’s personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet…
And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.
YOU DO NOT have to “settle” for a woman just because you aren’t rich, tall, or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women

Earlier I mentioned that it’s a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.
Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.
Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Another bad idea…
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over… Women aren’t attracted to Wussies!

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women

Now I’m going to blow your mind…
A woman ALWAYS knows what you’re thinking.
Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That’s ten TIMES.
I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you’re out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.
And if you don’t know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won’t help!
And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating…
Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical… everything.
If you don’t know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up… and LOSE EVERYTHING.
And you KNOW it.
It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman… from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP

This is the biggest mistake of all.
This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.
I know, guys don’t like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don’t like to ask for help.
Hey, I’ve been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women…
About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn’t know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.
It frustrated the hell out of me.
One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn’t get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night… right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.
I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I’ve dated models, I’ve dated actresses, and I’ve dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.
It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling… like I don’t know how to meet women… and I might wind up alone.
I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.
I’ve written a book on the topic, and I’ve done seminars on both coasts of the United States… and taught tens of thousands of men all around the world.

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If you listen to a group of attractive, single women talking alone over dinner or drinks, the topic will always turn to MEN.

And in most cases, it will eventually turn into a RANT session about how hard it is to find good men to date…
Which will lead to a FULL-ON RAG SESSION about men in general…
…And wind up with a detailed list of all the traits guys have that are ANNOYING AS HELL.
The reality is that single women have an entire laundry list of traits, qualities, and characteristics that they HATE in single guys.

Did you know this?
I didn’t think so.
Well, the truth is that up until a few years ago, I didn’t know this either.

So take heart in the idea that you’re about to learn something that most men on this planet will DIE not knowing.
My hope is that what I’m about to share with you will change how you interact with women FOREVER… and help you meet and date more of the kinds of women you’re interested in.
Onward.

FRIENDSHIPS AND ROMANCE

For women, friendships and romantic relationships are two separate things. They are NOT the same.
One can lead to another, but it’s RARE when it happens.
Remember that.
One CAN lead to another, but it’s RARE.
“Romantic” relationships are very different from “friend” relationships.
While most men would sleep with most of their female “friends” if the woman “came on” to them, most women would NOT sleep with most men that they consider “just friends”.

But why is this? How do women differentiate between “just friends” and “I’ll be intimate with you”? And why is it so hard to become “more than friends” with a woman you’ve been “just friends” with for a long time?

The answer to this riddle is very interesting to me.
I believe that the answer comes down to understanding HOW women “know” when they want to “be intimate” with a man… and, even MORE importantly, understanding how women “know” when they DON’T want to “be intimate” with a man…
The thing that tells a woman whether the guy she’s with is “friend” material or “lover” material is how she FEELS.

It’s a combination of EMOTIONAL feelings and PHYSICAL feelings.
It is NOT logic.
She might USE logic to “rationalize” her decision… or she might USE logic to SOUND like she has a good reason for either “being with” or “not being with” a particular guy.

But don’t let that distract you. Logic isn’t important AT ALL in this context. So let me say this another way.
A woman FEELS something emotionally and/or physically, then she uses those FEELINGS as the basis for her “decisions” and actions with a particular guy.
If she feels that “Ewwww Yuck!” feeling, then her “logical” conclusion will probably not be that she wants to date the guy in question.
If she feels that “It’s Gettin’ Hot In Here” feeling, then her “logical” conclusion will probably be that this guy is interesting and attractive, and a good “choice” to date. At this point she’ll take ACTION on her feelings and thoughts…
It goes like this:
FEEL—>THINK—>ACT
First the FEELING, then the THOUGHT… and THEN the action.

Now, with this in mind, let me ask you an important question:
How do most guys behave around women that they’re “romantically” interested in?

And another:
What do they do to get the woman that’s the object of their desires to be with them?
Take a few minutes to think about this. Make a list if you have paper and pen handy.
I’m serious. I’ll wait.
Come back when you’re finished.

Now take a look at your list. I’ll bet that almost every single thing on your list was something “external”.
In other words, your list probably contains things like “Take her to dinner” and “Give her compliments” and “Buy her flowers” and “Call her often”.

These are all things that demonstrate that he’s INTERESTED.
They are NOT things that trigger those emotional and physical feelings inside of a woman that tell her that THIS IS THE GUY.

In other words, men try to use “props” to LET A WOMAN KNOW HE’S INTERESTED…
…HOPING that when the woman sees these displays she’ll be interested in him.

Almost NONE of the things men do to court women make women FEEL ANYTHING even remotely similar to “Attraction” and “Arousal”.
Of course, you know this.

You’ve probably done this stuff about a bazillion times. I have, too. I know what it’s like to try OVER AND OVER to let a particular woman know that I’m interested… only to have her NOT RESPOND in a “romantic” way.

The PROBLEM with this kind of thing is that it makes TWO HUGE MISTAKES at once.

First, it’s just the plain-old wrong way to go. Telling or showing a woman that you “like her” has no effect on how she feels about YOU.
In the moment it sure seems to make sense… “If I show her how I feel, she’ll return the feelings”.

Duh.

Like I said, it seems like the right thing to do in the moment (when your inner little girl has a big fat crush). But it’s not… it will have NO effect on her feelings for you.

And second, it communicates clearly that YOU DON’T GET IT. It tips a woman off INSTANTLY that you’re not hip to what’s going… and it kills your chances with her.

Say what?

You mean that doing nice things for women, and trying to show how you feel can actually HURT your chances with a woman?
Yea, it can.

Look, if you’ve been dating a woman exclusively for six months, and her birthday comes… it’s OK to buy her a gift and tell her that you like spending time with her.

YOU’RE ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP

But if you’ve known a woman for six DAYS and you try this kind of thing, you’re going to shoot yourself in the foot.
Women are EXPERTS at recognizing men who DON’T GET IT. And if you DON’T get it, PLUS you’re trying to compensate for the fact that
you don’t get it with gifts and compliments, then you’re REALLY screwed (or not screwed, as the case may be).
Remember what I’m about to tell you.
Burn it into your mind.

Write it on a sticky-note and put it on your computer monitor…
SINGLE, ATTRACTIVE WOMEN WATCH MEN TRY TO WIN THEM OVER ALL DAY LONG. THEY KNOW WHEN A GUY DOESN’T “GET IT”… AND
THEY’RE ANNOYED WHEN A GUY WHO DOESN’T “GET IT” JUST KEEPS TRYING AND TRYING AND TRYING.

Keep in mind that single, attractive women watch guys do this stuff 24/7. They shake their pretty heads and say “He doesn’t get it… He doesn’t get it… He doesn’t get it” over and over and over.
The point is that if you DON’T GET IT, then nothing you do is going to work for you.
The problem is bigger than you can imagine, and you’re going to need to take a totally different road to get where you’re going…

WHAT ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HATE MOST ABOUT SINGLE GUYS

Let’s return to where we started.
There are a few particular things that REALLY annoy single, attractive women.

One of the reasons that these things annoy women is because they’re DEAL KILLERS.

A woman can like everything about you, but if you do these things (or even ONE of these things), it can DESTROY your chances of success with a particular woman.

Here are a few of the BIG things that single women hate:
1) Giving Up Your Status In Exchange For Her Attention And Approval
If I had to describe the one single thing that both annoys women and DESTROYS a guy’s chances, it would be this.
It has taken me a long time to see this particular pattern, but it’s EVERYWHERE.
Men, in effect, say “Hi, I want your approval and attention. I’m willing to let YOU be the one who’s in control… and let YOU call the shots… and do anything to please YOU… if you’ll give me your attention and
approval”.
But the problem is that women DON’T WANT you to give up your status and “manliness”.
Women aren’t ATTRACTED to men who act weak and tentative.
Women secretly HATE IT when a guy does something to demonstrate that he’ll give away his power in return for approval.
THEY HATE IT!
I could literally write an entire book on this one single concept.
Take a few minutes to think this one over, and maybe write down the ways that you make this mistake with women.
More importantly, think about how you’re going to STOP DOING IT IMMEDIATELY.

2) Being Needy, Clingy, And Insecure
When one person “clings” to another person “psychologically”, the person who is being “clinged to” RESENTS and REJECTS the needy,
clingy emotional parasite…
This is WUSS behavior at its worst.
If a guy is on the phone with a girl he just met, and she says “Hey, I have to go”, he might say “Aw, well… um… OK. Um, will you call me when you get home?”.
Or let’s say a guy and a girl are out on their first date, and they’re walking around in a large department store.
Most guys will follow the woman everywhere, and not leave her side for a minute.
If she wanders away, he’ll come find her IMMEDIATELY.
He’ll stay physically close to her, as if he’s afraid she’ll leave without him.
And an even worse example is a guy who is so emotionally insecure that he actually ASKS a woman to tell him that he’s nice, fun, interesting, etc.
“Do you think I’m interesting?”
“Do you think we could ever have a relationship?”
“Am I your type?”
Women HATE this stuff. It makes them shiver with the heebie-jeebies. It makes them want to RUN AWAY.

3) Not Leading – And Even Worse, Trying To Get Her To Lead
Women have WUSS-DAR.
One of the things that triggers a woman’s WUSS-DAR is a man who FOLLOWS.
The REAL problem is that most women won’t try to LEAD naturally.
So you’ve got a situation where a man is trying to FOLLOW a woman who isn’t LEADING.
He’s looking for little cues so he knows where to go and what to do… but he isn’t getting them.
So what does he do?
He ASKS for them!
He says “So, I was thinking of maybe taking you to Olive Garden for dinner… how does that sound?”.
Everything about the way he asks says to the woman “I’m trying to figure out what you want me to do… please help me know how you want me to act, where you want me to take you, and what you want me to say”.
This is ATTRACTION DEATH!
men who don’t lead, and even worse, try to get a woman to lead, ANNOY THE HELL OUT OF SINGLE WOMEN.
They HATE IT!

4) Using Insecure, Approval-Seeking, Low-Status Posture, Gestures, Voice Tone, And Body Language
There’s a term that single, attractive, in-demand women use to describe men who use weak, approval-seeking posture, gestures,
comments, and mannerisms…
The term is “NICE”.
“He’s nice… but… there’s no chemistry.”
This is one of those areas that’s not easy to talk about.
Since SO DAMN MANY GUYS do this stuff, it’s almost impossible to explain.
It’s like trying to tell a fish that they’re not going to get anywhere in life if they stay wet.
The fish doesn’t even KNOW it’s wet in the first place.
But let me try.
This is important. Go spend a day observing couples. Go places where couples that have just met spend time together.
Bars, clubs, coffee shops, whatever.
Now watch the GUYS.
Watch how they lean towards the women. Watch how they raise their eyebrows in exaggerated response to women’s comments. Watch how they slump over, let their shoulders fall forward, and smile fake-ly at whatever the women say.
If you’re close enough, listen to how men ask questions and make comments with a voice tone that says “I’m insecure and I’m trying
to be extra nice to compensate for it”.
You’ll see it EVERYWHERE.
In fact, you’ll see it so much that you’ll probably write me back to tell me that I’m the one who’s crazy, and that since it happens so much, it must be “the right way”.
Well, it’s not.
If there’s one thing that triggers an attractive single woman’s WUSS-DAR, it’s a man’s posture, gestures, eye contact, voice tone, etc.
It all happens in an INSTANT.
Women read this stuff and interpret it as instantly and accurately as you read and interpret the cover of Playboy.

NO ANALYSIS NECESSARY

I’d say that probably 90% of all men alive today INSTANTLY disqualify themselves with women because of this problem.
Their voice tone, gestures, posture, etc. TELEGRAPH the message that they’re a WUSS.
They do a thousand weird little things to let a woman know that they’re uncomfortable and “not being themselves”.
And you guessed it…
Single women HATE IT!

5) Not Understanding That She’s A Woman And You’re A Man
I’m about to get philosophical on your ass, so be cool. When it comes down to it, most men don’t understand women. But the REAL kicker is that most men don’t understand MEN, either!
Most guys don’t know what it’s like to get in touch with their MALE NATURE.
Combine these two issues, and you get a guy who behaves in ways that DO NOT trigger ATTRACTION in women.
Women have a “nature”. A female nature. Men also have a “nature”. You guessed it, it’s a MALE nature.
Women are coy. They like to play hard to get. They like to enjoy the chase. They love anticipation. They love to “let a guy catch them”…
Men are competitive. Men are dominant. Men like to play rough games, win things, and rule their territory.
Well guess what?
Most men don’t BEHAVE like men when they’re in the presence of a woman that they “like”.
And since most men don’t understand female human nature, they don’t demonstrate that they “get it” when they’re with women that they “like”.
Women like men. Men like women. There are POWERFUL causes at play here.
When you’re around a woman you like, don’t act like a GIRLY-MAN. It’s not sexy, and it’s not attractive…
And single women HATE IT!

6) Not Being Interesting To Be Around
Underneath most behavior that I see most guys acting out is a “core belief” that goes like this:
“I don’t believe that an attractive woman would want to be around me just because she enjoys my presence… so I make up for it by saying and doing certain things that I hope she’ll enjoy… and if she enjoys those
other things enough, then maybe she’ll want to spend more time with me.”
Heavy, man.
Well guess what? Most attractive single women KNOW that if a guy isn’t interesting to be around, they she’s eventually going to go CRAZY being around him.

In other words, no amount of material gifts, compliments, dinners, and other “displays” will EVER compensate for a lack of BEING INTERESTING.
Here’s a profound thought:
I and several other guys I know have many women who call us often… just because they enjoy being around us.
These women would be happy just to be in the same room with us… and enjoy our company.
And yes, these women CALL US.
Often.
Material gifts, food, flowers, and other “displays” have ZERO lasting value to a woman when it comes to how she FEELS about you…
An attractive single woman wants a guy who LIGHTS HER UP. She wants to FEEL GOOD. She wants mystery… she wants to laugh… she wants a challenge… she wants sexual tension…
If you’re using compliments, gifts, food, and other “displays” to get a woman’s attention… you need to ask yourself a tough question:
Is it because you don’t believe that a woman would want to be around you just to be around you?
Because if you don’t know how to be INTERESTING to a woman, then no amount of compensation is going to fix the problem.
If you’re boring, predictable, and uninteresting, then you’re never going to have women calling YOU to hang out.
Oh, and women HATE IT.

7) Not Understanding Attraction
This is a BIGGIE.
You hear me talking about it all the time, right? Maybe now that you’ve read this newsletter you’ll have a better context to understand what I’m about to tell you…
If you “get it” with women, it’s SUPER INTERESTING and ATTRACTIVE to them.
Women can INSTANTLY FEEL IT when they’re with a guy who “gets it”.

Women know very quickly if they’re talking to a guy who understands himself and women… and who enjoys creating and building sexual tension.
Women know if a guy speaks the SECRET LANGUAGE of “Sexual Communication”.
If he doesn’t, then she stops all communication on that level. If he does, then it continues. ATTRACTION Isn’t A Choice.
Attraction is an emotional and physical RESPONSE… and you can’t “convince” a woman to feel it with logic, gifts, and NICENESS.
Attraction is the result of a woman meeting a man who understands how attraction works… and who knows what to do in each specific
situation to progress to the next level.
The PROBLEM with ATTRACTION, and with success with women in general is that the things you need to DO to be successful are NOT
OBVIOUS.
They’re “counter intuitive”, in many cases.

In other words, they’re the OPPOSITE of what you’d THINK would make sense. You have to do things like CREATE TENSION… stop doing something that she likes… give her time to miss you… etc.
And if you don’t understand ATTRACTION, a woman is going to KNOW IT.
And guess what?
Single women HATE IT when a man doesn’t understand ATTRACTION and how to communicate on this “other level”.
Now that I’ve shared the mistakes, you need the next piece of the puzzle. You need to get an education on how attraction works for women… and the RIGHT things to do up front to give her those emotional/physical feelings inside.

Right now you’re probably feeling that excited “Ah Ha!” feeling. That’s because you understand something at a different level… you’ve used your mind to understand something complex… and you feel good about bettering yourself.
Well this is just the TIP of the iceberg.
As educational as this has been, this is only the beginning.
If you’re starting to realize how important it is to get this area of your life handled, then I recommend you make a commitment and take your education to a WORLD CLASS level.
And what’s the best way to do that?
Well, I’ve spent the last several years of my life figuring out exactly what does and doesn’t work with women.
I figured this stuff out for MYSELF… and then I took what I’ve learned and put it all together to help others learn as well.
My Double Your Dating eBook represents THOUSANDS of hours of research, testing, getting to know guys who were successful with women, and generally organizing every level of this knowledge into an easy-to-understand system that ANY guy can use to increase his success with women and dating.
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Conversation Topics With Women: Learning To Date: Men and Women Meeting For Dates

I’ve learned a secret to impressing women that I’m going to share with you in this article. It’s a secret that probably not 1 in 1,000 men knows or will ever figure out on his own. The REASON that most men will never figure out this particular secret is that it’s TOO OBVIOUS.

Let me explain…
I personally think that most men feel a very powerful desire to IMPRESS women. If you watch the way a man behaves when he’s talking to a woman he’s just met or a woman that he’s on a first date with, you can SEE IT.

Maybe you’ve been there yourself. I know I have. Many, many times, in fact.
The feeling that you need to impress a woman usually comes along with another feeling: DON’T SCREW THIS UP.

Here are some of the signs that a guy is feeling the need to “impress” the woman that he’s talking to:
1) He tries to only say “cool” things, or things that will “impress” the woman.
2) He acts nervous and stilted during the conversation… sometimes coming across as “formal”.
3) He tries to figure out what the woman wants to hear.
4) If he says something that the woman doesn’t like, he “back-pedals” and tries to change what he said to suit the woman.
5) He doesn’t say anything “risky”, doesn’t tease the woman, and doesn’t do anything to upset her.
…in other words, when a guy is talking to a woman that he “likes”, he’s usually on his “best behavior”, and he’s trying to “put his best foot forward”.

To say it again, MEN FEEL A POWERFUL DRIVE TO IMPRESS THE WOMAN THAT THEY “LIKE”. And this drive to impress often makes them act UNNATURAL.
There’s your first hint, in fact…

THE SECRET

Remember at the beginning when I told you that I was going to share a secret with you about how to impress women that not 1 in 1,000 men will figure out on their own?

Well, here it is:

STOP TRYING.

If you will just STOP TRYING to impress women, and do the things I’m teaching you instead, women will NATURALLY be “impressed” by you.

TRYING TO IMPRESS A WOMAN DOESN’T IMPRESS HER.

So let’s break this down…

WHY IMPRESSING WOMEN IS THE WRONG ROAD

What’s wrong with trying to “impress” women, anyway?

To start with, EVERYTHING.

When you intentionally try to impress a woman, you send the following messages on a “subtle” level:
1) I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I will try to “impress” you instead.
2) I’m not comfortable enough around women to just act normal.
3) I don’t have a lot of experience with attractive women.
4) I’m insecure.
5) I don’t know how to make women feel comfortable with me.

Ouch.

But it’s the truth.

Women can TELL INSTANTLY when you’re “trying”. The conversation doesn’t feel “normal”, your body language is strange, and you can’t seem to have a regular conversation. Now of course, I’ve just described the way that about 99.9999% of men act when they’re first talking to a woman that they “like”. Are you ready for a profound insight?

Here goes…

MOST MEN DO THIS WITH MOST ATTRACTIVE WOMEN MOST OF THE TIME. IN OTHER WORDS, IT’S OLD NEWS. IT’S BORING. IT’S PREDICTABLE. AND IT DOES NOT IMPRESS AT ALL.

The bottom line is that trying to impress a woman usually has the OPPOSITE effect. It not only makes you look like a nervous guy who can’t make normal conversation… it also bores the hell out of women.

WHAT TO DO INSTEAD

OK, so you’re out having a cup of tea with a beautiful woman you just met a few days before…
She asks you what you do for a living.
Should you answer with:
1) “Well, I’m an engineer for a software company that makes sophisticated vector widget plotting algorithms. I’ve been with them for three years, and I’m about to be promoted to ALGORITHM MANAGER.”
2) “I do stunt work. Have you ever seen it in a movie when a hot actor has to reveal his naked ass? That’s my job.”
…?

Well, it all depends on what your outcome is. If you want to try and IMPRESS the girl with your cool high-tech job, then #1 will work just fine.

Unfortunately, it won’t impress her at all, and it will make you sound like a jackass who is trying to sound cool. If you want to ACTUALLY impress her, try #2. Most men don’t have the BALLS to say something like this when a woman asks a “serious” question like “What do you do?”. If you REALLY want to make a long-lasting impression, KEEP THE HUMOR GOING.
She’ll say “No, really… what do you do?”.
Answer with: “No, really. Haven’t you ever seen it when an actor needs a stunt ass? I mean hey… someone’s got to do it”.

Now, I can’t possibly go into all the reasons why it’s a HUGE MISTAKE to try to impress a woman, or to feel like everything you say should be “impressive”.

There are MANY reasons for this. MORE IMPORTANTLY, there are a few things you can do that will INSTANTLY impress a woman… and I mean REALLY impress her.

But these things aren’t OBVIOUS. The most IMPORTANT thing you can do to IMPRESS a woman is make her feel a powerful emotional ATTRACTION for you. This feeling will stay with her long after you have left and gone home. And it’s the one thing that will make women pursue YOU… and try to impress YOU.

What’s the best way to do this?
1) Stop trying to IMPRESS women. Stop it now.
2) Go  and download a copy of my online eBook “Double Your Dating“, and read it. It contains literally DOZENS and dozens of great techniques for you to use that will make women feel ATTRACTION for you.

You can download it to your computer and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now. It’s here. [This book and the three bonuses that come with it are the FOUNDATION for success with women. Everything you read in these articles will make more sense once you have read the book]