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One thing every woman knows about you

Rob — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 10:50:41 +0000

The one thing that every woman knows about you is that YOU are afraid of REJECTION.

That’s right. Every woman you approach, talk to, smile at, even just glimpse in passing, they all know that with a subtle word or smile, or look, she can turn you inside out.

BUT when you can be The Man and not show this fear every guy has, this fear of rejection, then you will hav econtrol over her. And you will be the leader of all of her emotional interest and attraction in you.

How To Achieve Ultimate Success With Women Starting With The First Date

Rob — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 18:18:30 +0000

Let me ask you a question: What is “SUCCESS” to you when it comes to women?

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If I asked you to give me a detailed explanation of EXACTLY how your life would be if you had ULTIMATE SUCCESS with women, could you do it?
Sure, most guys would say something like “Success to me would be being able to walk up to any woman and get a date with her”… or “Success to me would be dating as many women as I wanted”… or “Success to me would be having a really sexy girlfriend”, etc.

These are the kinds of answers I hear when I ask guys this question.

But there’s a PROBLEM with these answers. NONE OF THEM REALLY MEAN ANYTHING.

If you learn how to approach any woman and get a date, you’ll soon find that you don’t know what to DO once you’re actually out ON the dates… how to take things to a physical level, how to kiss her, etc…

If you start dating several women at a time, you’ll quickly realize that it’s a MAJOR challenge to juggle all of those relationships and maintain a happy life…
If you find a really sexy girlfriend, there’s a good chance that she’ll have a whole bunch of personal issues and problems that you never anticipated.

You have to be careful what you wish for in life, because you’ll often get it. I’ve found that guys usually make TWO major mistakes then it comes to SUCCESS with women:
1) Most guys haven’t really thought through what success means to them in detail.
2) Most guys base their personal idea of success on what OTHERS want, and not what THEY want for themselves.

In fact, I was one of the guys that made BOTH of these mistakes. I can remember when I first decided to ONCE AND FOR ALL learn how to be “successful” with women. I had this idea in my mind that if I could just learn how to get women’s phone numbers quickly and easily that I would be successful beyond my wildest dreams.

So I went to work on figuring it out. I probably spent a good six or twelve months trying all kinds of different tricks to get women’s phone numbers quickly. And I figured out some great techniques.

I can literally get a woman’s number within a few minutes of meeting her. But once I learned this skill, I was hit with a MAJOR realization: Most of the women I was meeting never turned into DATES. They either didn’t return my calls, refused my requests, or just plain flaked out on me.

It was VERY frustrating.

The other problem I had was looking around at what OTHER guys were doing and saying “I want to be able to do what HE does…” or “I want to date the kinds of women HE dates”. And I secretly had this idea that if I knew how to date HOT women that all my friends would like me more and think I was a really cool guy.

Well guess what?

First of all, just because another guy is doing something doesn’t mean that it would make ME happy. In fact, I realized that in many cases it wasn’t even making HIM happy. I couldn’t help comparing my success and the women I was dating with other guys, and the women they were dating.

But it was a trap.

The more a person looks at what OTHERS are doing and focusing on that, the less satisfied they are with what THEY are doing themselves. And as far as other guys thinking I was “cool” because I was dating attractive women… WRONG AGAIN. Guys (even friends) usually envy you and resent the fact that you have success and they don’t. Especially when it comes to really attractive women.

So much for those losing strategies.

SO WHAT’S THE ANSWER?

Well, it’s taken me a few years to really put all the puzzle pieces together and figure out how to resolve these issues.

Here’s what I’ve come up with:
1) REALLY THINK ABOUT WHAT SUCCESS MEANS TO YOU IN DETAIL, AND WRITE IT DOWN.

Take the time (even if it takes days or weeks… or longer) and think through what you want for yourself. Do a little “self examination” (no, not down there), and be honest with yourself. See if you can figure out where your idea of what “success” is came from. Did it come from watching movies? Did it come from guys you know? Where did you get your model of what “success with women” is?

Once you’ve figured out where some of your ideas came from, then think about what you want.

Think about your life and your lifestyle.

Instead of looking at Playboy and thinking to yourself “I’d sure like to have seven blonde girlfriends in my bed”, try thinking about what would make you HAPPY on an ongoing basis. Take some time to write down the things you like in a woman. Write down what you DON’T like. Get a clear picture in your mind of how you’d like your life to be, and what kind of success with women would make your life more enjoyable.

After researching this topic for a few years now, I’ve come to the opinion that most guys (80%-90%) actually want to have a great long-term relationship with a fantastic woman.
Sure, some guys want to date around and sleep with a lot of women, but the majority of guys would really like to meet an exceptional woman and share a great connection… long term.

But guess what?
You’re not going to walk outside after you’re finished reading this and find that particular woman waiting on the corner for you.

In fact, you’re probably not going to meet her anytime soon.
If you want to find a REALLY exceptional woman that is beautiful, intelligent, funny, emotionally stable, financially independent, loving, etc. then you’re probably going to have to date QUITE A FEW women in order to FIND her.

And when you DO find her, you can bet your ass that she’s IN DEMAND. She probably has MANY guys who are interested in her on an ongoing basis, and she KNOWS that she has options.

TRANSLATION: You’d better have your sh** together when you do meet her, and you’d better not be acting like an idiot.
So think through what success means, what you want, what you don’t want, and how you’d like your life to look ideally when it comes to women and dating.

2) LEARN THE RARE SKILL OF MAKING WOMEN FEEL THE MAGICAL EMOTION CALLED ATTRACTION.

I have spent a long time now searching for the secrets of how ATTRACTION works. You’d probably guess that something as IMPORTANT and as POWERFUL as ATTRACTION would be well-researched and widely written about.

Well guess what?
I can’t find even ONE good book, audio tape series, seminar or website that describes it.

NOT EVEN ONE.

I’ve read all kinds of “opinions” on attraction, but when I really compare what I read and hear to my own personal knowledge and experience, I always shake my head and say to myself “No, that’s not right”. And by the way, if you’ve found a book, tape, seminar, or website, etc. that lays it all out, let me know. I think I’ve reviewed just about everything out there and met a lot of the experts on the topic… but maybe I’ve missed something.

The point is that I think that success in this area of life basically ALL comes down to understanding ATTRACTION. I’m not talking about being “physically attractive”, I’m talking about the EMOTION of ATTRACTION. If a woman feels ATTRACTION for a man, then nothing else matters.

His looks don’t matter, his income doesn’t matter, his age doesn’t matter… nothing matters. On the other hand, if a woman DOESN’T feel ATTRACTION for a man, then nothing else matters!
His looks, income, age, etc. just don’t matter. Nothing he can do can make her feel that emotion.

Sure, a woman can “fall for” a guy over time. But in these rare cases it’s not because of ATTRACTION. It’s because she starts to feel an AFFECTION for him, and settles for a long-term relationship. Incidentally, this usually involves a man who pursues a woman, buys her gifts and dinners, behaves in a way that puts her value above his, etc. And, incidentally, it usually involves a woman who feels like she’s SETTLING.
BUT, if you know how to make a woman feel that amazing and unique emotion called ATTRACTION, then you will be in control of your dating success… and YOU can decide on and control what happens to you.

A man who has his life together and actually understands how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION is FAR more rare than a beautiful woman.
Think about that.

An exceptional man who understands ATTRACTION is FAR more rare, valuable, and desirable than even the most BEAUTIFUL woman.

If you don’t believe me, then ASK some beautiful women how many men like this they’ve known in their lifetimes. They’ll count them all on one hand. You’ll see.

And the best part, in my personal opinion, is that it doesn’t take any unusual talents, physical attributes, or large sums of money to learn these skills.

All it takes is an understanding of how ATTRACTION works, a desire to learn it, and the discipline to learn, practice, and improve over time.

What’s a good way to get started?

Well, you’re doing it. I think that reading these articles is one of the best ways to get a handle on how to make women feel ATTRACTION. What’s an even BETTER way?

I’ve taken knowledge from various fields… from brain research and psychology to animal behavior and mating patterns… and combined it with my real-world personal experience of figuring out what works.
There’s no fluff, and no B.S.

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One of the most common things I hear about this program is “This material has completely changed the way I think about women”.
I certainly wish that I would have had this program about five years ago… when I started out.
It would have saved me about THREE years, and probably thousands of hours of wasted time.
…and if you haven’t downloaded your copy of my online eBook “Double Your Dating” yet, then you need to do that NOW. It’s jam packed with concepts, techniques, and specific step-by-step strategies for meeting and dating women. It’s the foundation for all the other things I teach, and it’s fast and easy to download and read. Download it here. [This book and the three bonuses that come with it are the FOUNDATION for success with women. Everything you read in these articles will make more sense once you have read the book]

How To Communicate and Impress ANY Woman

Rob — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 18:02:03 +0000

Conversation Topics With Women: Learning To Date: Men and Women Meeting For Dates

I’ve learned a secret to impressing women that I’m going to share with you in this article. It’s a secret that probably not 1 in 1,000 men knows or will ever figure out on his own. The REASON that most men will never figure out this particular secret is that it’s TOO OBVIOUS.

Let me explain…
I personally think that most men feel a very powerful desire to IMPRESS women. If you watch the way a man behaves when he’s talking to a woman he’s just met or a woman that he’s on a first date with, you can SEE IT.

Maybe you’ve been there yourself. I know I have. Many, many times, in fact.
The feeling that you need to impress a woman usually comes along with another feeling: DON’T SCREW THIS UP.

Here are some of the signs that a guy is feeling the need to “impress” the woman that he’s talking to:
1) He tries to only say “cool” things, or things that will “impress” the woman.
2) He acts nervous and stilted during the conversation… sometimes coming across as “formal”.
3) He tries to figure out what the woman wants to hear.
4) If he says something that the woman doesn’t like, he “back-pedals” and tries to change what he said to suit the woman.
5) He doesn’t say anything “risky”, doesn’t tease the woman, and doesn’t do anything to upset her.
…in other words, when a guy is talking to a woman that he “likes”, he’s usually on his “best behavior”, and he’s trying to “put his best foot forward”.

To say it again, MEN FEEL A POWERFUL DRIVE TO IMPRESS THE WOMAN THAT THEY “LIKE”. And this drive to impress often makes them act UNNATURAL.
There’s your first hint, in fact…

THE SECRET

Remember at the beginning when I told you that I was going to share a secret with you about how to impress women that not 1 in 1,000 men will figure out on their own?

Well, here it is:

STOP TRYING.

If you will just STOP TRYING to impress women, and do the things I’m teaching you instead, women will NATURALLY be “impressed” by you.

TRYING TO IMPRESS A WOMAN DOESN’T IMPRESS HER.

So let’s break this down…

WHY IMPRESSING WOMEN IS THE WRONG ROAD

What’s wrong with trying to “impress” women, anyway?

To start with, EVERYTHING.

When you intentionally try to impress a woman, you send the following messages on a “subtle” level:
1) I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I will try to “impress” you instead.
2) I’m not comfortable enough around women to just act normal.
3) I don’t have a lot of experience with attractive women.
4) I’m insecure.
5) I don’t know how to make women feel comfortable with me.

Ouch.

But it’s the truth.

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Women can TELL INSTANTLY when you’re “trying”. The conversation doesn’t feel “normal”, your body language is strange, and you can’t seem to have a regular conversation. Now of course, I’ve just described the way that about 99.9999% of men act when they’re first talking to a woman that they “like”. Are you ready for a profound insight?

Here goes…

MOST MEN DO THIS WITH MOST ATTRACTIVE WOMEN MOST OF THE TIME. IN OTHER WORDS, IT’S OLD NEWS. IT’S BORING. IT’S PREDICTABLE. AND IT DOES NOT IMPRESS AT ALL.

The bottom line is that trying to impress a woman usually has the OPPOSITE effect. It not only makes you look like a nervous guy who can’t make normal conversation… it also bores the hell out of women.

WHAT TO DO INSTEAD

OK, so you’re out having a cup of tea with a beautiful woman you just met a few days before…
She asks you what you do for a living.
Should you answer with:
1) “Well, I’m an engineer for a software company that makes sophisticated vector widget plotting algorithms. I’ve been with them for three years, and I’m about to be promoted to ALGORITHM MANAGER.”
2) “I do stunt work. Have you ever seen it in a movie when a hot actor has to reveal his naked ass? That’s my job.”
…?

Well, it all depends on what your outcome is. If you want to try and IMPRESS the girl with your cool high-tech job, then #1 will work just fine.

Unfortunately, it won’t impress her at all, and it will make you sound like a jackass who is trying to sound cool. If you want to ACTUALLY impress her, try #2. Most men don’t have the BALLS to say something like this when a woman asks a “serious” question like “What do you do?”. If you REALLY want to make a long-lasting impression, KEEP THE HUMOR GOING.
She’ll say “No, really… what do you do?”.
Answer with: “No, really. Haven’t you ever seen it when an actor needs a stunt ass? I mean hey… someone’s got to do it”.

Now, I can’t possibly go into all the reasons why it’s a HUGE MISTAKE to try to impress a woman, or to feel like everything you say should be “impressive”.

There are MANY reasons for this. MORE IMPORTANTLY, there are a few things you can do that will INSTANTLY impress a woman… and I mean REALLY impress her.

But these things aren’t OBVIOUS. The most IMPORTANT thing you can do to IMPRESS a woman is make her feel a powerful emotional ATTRACTION for you. This feeling will stay with her long after you have left and gone home. And it’s the one thing that will make women pursue YOU… and try to impress YOU.

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What’s the best way to do this?
1) Stop trying to IMPRESS women. Stop it now.
2) Go and download a copy of my online eBook “Double Your Dating“, and read it. It contains literally DOZENS and dozens of great techniques for you to use that will make women feel ATTRACTION for you.

You can download it to your computer and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now. It’s here. [This book and the three bonuses that come with it are the FOUNDATION for success with women. Everything you read in these articles will make more sense once you have read the book]