How
To Get A Woman’s Phone Number And Email Address Within Three Minutes
Of Meeting Her

By David DeAngelo

Let me start off by telling you something interesting:

I’ve personally stopped focusing on just
getting phone numbers. I’ve found that EMAIL addresses are far better
(I still get the phone number too, of course).

Let me explain.

I perfected the art of getting phone numbers
a couple of years ago.

If a woman is single, I can walk up to her
and get her number in about a minute or two (if I’m in a hurry). I
found out later, after working like a mad scientist on this that
GETTING PHONE NUMBERS ALONE DOESNT’T EQUAL SUCCESS.

You see, women have many different reasons
for giving out their phone numbers. Some love the attention of having
a lot of men call them. Some like to turn guys down. Some are actually
interested. But the universal feedback that I get from men, and in my
personal experience, women act different on the phone than they do in
person.

When you call a woman for the first time,
she’ll often start acting stand offish or even worse, just plain rude.
It’s almost like she’s a different person than the one you met.

I’ve found that getting an EMAIL address is
not only easier, but it gets more positive responses later on. It’s
almost as if women appreciate it that you’ve taken the time to think
about what you’re going to say when you write an email to them, and
they think of you more like someone they know.

The other benefit of email is that it can be
written and answered anytime.

If you call, you have to actually reach them.
But an email can be answered anytime. And I’ve found that emails are
answered FAR more often than voicemail messages.

HERE’S THE HOW TO:

After I’ve talked to a woman for about 3 or 4
minutes, I’ll often say something like “Well, it was nice meeting
you. I’m going to get back to my friends.”

They usually don’t know what to do, as
they’re used to guys clinging to them. Most of the time, they say
“It was nice meeting you too…” Then, just as I’m
turning to walk away, and we kind of disconnect, I turn back and say
“HEY! Do you have email?”

The “HEY!” is a bit surprising, and
“Do you have email” is non-threatening. In fact, I’m
technically asking her if she HAS email, not if she’ll GIVE IT TO ME.

If she says “yes,” I take out a pen
and paper and say “Great, write it down for me” and I have
her write it down. (This is great, as I just treat the ‘yes’ that they
give me as a yes to get it from them as well. And they’ve almost ALL
gone along with it so far) Then AS SHE’S IN THE MIDDLE OF WRITING, I
say “Write your number down there too.”

When you ask for email, it’s very low risk
for a woman, so she’ll think “Fine, I’ll do that.” Most
women will give out an email address without thinking about it,
because they know that they can choose later to just not answer.

The magic of asking them to write their phone
number down WHILE they’re in the middle of writing down their email is
all about the psychology of human behavior.

She’s already mentally said “OK, I’ll
give you my email address”… and she’s in the middle of writing
it down. When you say “And just write your number down there
too” it’s only NATURAL to just write it.

In other words, it’s a MUCH smaller step than
giving out the phone number all by itself. It took me a LONG time to
figure out this simple move, but it works like magic! You will have
women writing their phone numbers down without even thinking twice.

Here’s a great add-on to make sure you’re
getting a real phone number and not a pager or voicemail:

As she’s writing down her phone number I say
“Is this a number that you actually answer?” If she looks at
me and hesitates, or says that it’s her “voicemail or pager
number,” then I say “Look, write your real number down. It’s
going to be OK, I’ll only call you nine times a day…” They
laugh and usually give me their real number.

Now, if she answers my first question and
says “No, I don’t have email” then I bust on them and say
“Well, do you have electricity?” This is a GREAT opportunity
to use humor.

Then I say “Well, OK then. I like email
better, but I’ll take your regular phone number. It’s so damn hard to
reach people on the phone these days.”

Just realize that all you have to do is ask.

Like I said, I’ve tried all kinds of things.
And I’ve gotten hundreds of phone numbers. And I use this exact
sequence every time I talk to a woman and I want to get her phone
number. I’ve gotten to the point where I can often do this in a minute
or two – no kidding!

Now that you know the sequence, write it down
with the words and the steps, and rehearse it in your mind over and
over until you know exactly what to say for each step and each
response.

Many guys have asked me “But what do I
tell her as a reason why I want her number or email?” I’ve never
had a woman ask me. If you ask, and they give it, then she knows why
you asked. If she doesn’t give it to you, then she also knew why you
asked.

Just assume that this is the case.

If you ask every time, and you do it in a
smooth, assuming, calm way, you’ll get a lot of emails and phone
numbers.

Note: Carry a pen on you at all times. I
prefer the Fisher Space Pen (chrome) because it’s small, classy, and
women love it!

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David DeAngelo is the
author of “Double Your Dating – What Every Man Should
Know About How To Be Successful With Women”, and has taught thousands of men
how to be more successful with women and dating.
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Conversation Topics With Women: Learning To Date: Men and Women Meeting For Dates

I’ve learned a secret to impressing women that I’m going to share with you in this article. It’s a secret that probably not 1 in 1,000 men knows or will ever figure out on his own. The REASON that most men will never figure out this particular secret is that it’s TOO OBVIOUS.

Let me explain…
I personally think that most men feel a very powerful desire to IMPRESS women. If you watch the way a man behaves when he’s talking to a woman he’s just met or a woman that he’s on a first date with, you can SEE IT.

Maybe you’ve been there yourself. I know I have. Many, many times, in fact.
The feeling that you need to impress a woman usually comes along with another feeling: DON’T SCREW THIS UP.

Here are some of the signs that a guy is feeling the need to “impress” the woman that he’s talking to:
1) He tries to only say “cool” things, or things that will “impress” the woman.
2) He acts nervous and stilted during the conversation… sometimes coming across as “formal”.
3) He tries to figure out what the woman wants to hear.
4) If he says something that the woman doesn’t like, he “back-pedals” and tries to change what he said to suit the woman.
5) He doesn’t say anything “risky”, doesn’t tease the woman, and doesn’t do anything to upset her.
…in other words, when a guy is talking to a woman that he “likes”, he’s usually on his “best behavior”, and he’s trying to “put his best foot forward”.

To say it again, MEN FEEL A POWERFUL DRIVE TO IMPRESS THE WOMAN THAT THEY “LIKE”. And this drive to impress often makes them act UNNATURAL.
There’s your first hint, in fact…

THE SECRET

Remember at the beginning when I told you that I was going to share a secret with you about how to impress women that not 1 in 1,000 men will figure out on their own?

Well, here it is:

STOP TRYING.

If you will just STOP TRYING to impress women, and do the things I’m teaching you instead, women will NATURALLY be “impressed” by you.

TRYING TO IMPRESS A WOMAN DOESN’T IMPRESS HER.

So let’s break this down…

WHY IMPRESSING WOMEN IS THE WRONG ROAD

What’s wrong with trying to “impress” women, anyway?

To start with, EVERYTHING.

When you intentionally try to impress a woman, you send the following messages on a “subtle” level:
1) I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I will try to “impress” you instead.
2) I’m not comfortable enough around women to just act normal.
3) I don’t have a lot of experience with attractive women.
4) I’m insecure.
5) I don’t know how to make women feel comfortable with me.

Ouch.

But it’s the truth.

Women can TELL INSTANTLY when you’re “trying”. The conversation doesn’t feel “normal”, your body language is strange, and you can’t seem to have a regular conversation. Now of course, I’ve just described the way that about 99.9999% of men act when they’re first talking to a woman that they “like”. Are you ready for a profound insight?

Here goes…

MOST MEN DO THIS WITH MOST ATTRACTIVE WOMEN MOST OF THE TIME. IN OTHER WORDS, IT’S OLD NEWS. IT’S BORING. IT’S PREDICTABLE. AND IT DOES NOT IMPRESS AT ALL.

The bottom line is that trying to impress a woman usually has the OPPOSITE effect. It not only makes you look like a nervous guy who can’t make normal conversation… it also bores the hell out of women.

WHAT TO DO INSTEAD

OK, so you’re out having a cup of tea with a beautiful woman you just met a few days before…
She asks you what you do for a living.
Should you answer with:
1) “Well, I’m an engineer for a software company that makes sophisticated vector widget plotting algorithms. I’ve been with them for three years, and I’m about to be promoted to ALGORITHM MANAGER.”
2) “I do stunt work. Have you ever seen it in a movie when a hot actor has to reveal his naked ass? That’s my job.”
…?

Well, it all depends on what your outcome is. If you want to try and IMPRESS the girl with your cool high-tech job, then #1 will work just fine.

Unfortunately, it won’t impress her at all, and it will make you sound like a jackass who is trying to sound cool. If you want to ACTUALLY impress her, try #2. Most men don’t have the BALLS to say something like this when a woman asks a “serious” question like “What do you do?”. If you REALLY want to make a long-lasting impression, KEEP THE HUMOR GOING.
She’ll say “No, really… what do you do?”.
Answer with: “No, really. Haven’t you ever seen it when an actor needs a stunt ass? I mean hey… someone’s got to do it”.

Now, I can’t possibly go into all the reasons why it’s a HUGE MISTAKE to try to impress a woman, or to feel like everything you say should be “impressive”.

There are MANY reasons for this. MORE IMPORTANTLY, there are a few things you can do that will INSTANTLY impress a woman… and I mean REALLY impress her.

But these things aren’t OBVIOUS. The most IMPORTANT thing you can do to IMPRESS a woman is make her feel a powerful emotional ATTRACTION for you. This feeling will stay with her long after you have left and gone home. And it’s the one thing that will make women pursue YOU… and try to impress YOU.

What’s the best way to do this?
1) Stop trying to IMPRESS women. Stop it now.
2) Go  and download a copy of my online eBook “Double Your Dating“, and read it. It contains literally DOZENS and dozens of great techniques for you to use that will make women feel ATTRACTION for you.

You can download it to your computer and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now. It’s here. [This book and the three bonuses that come with it are the FOUNDATION for success with women. Everything you read in these articles will make more sense once you have read the book]