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Thursday's Dating Tip

April 16, 2009

Use What Works For You

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First of all, Cocky and Funny isn’t a super-secret, covert manipulation tactic. It’s a way of flirting, teasing, and interacting with women that they enjoy.

Second, I’ve found that the only women who DON’T respond well to it are women who are UPTIGHT, women who aren’t at all interested, or overly SHY women who are intimidated (in which case you can usually just tone it down and have fun with them too).

That’s my personal experience. Smart, nerdy girls like the ones you’re attracted to (I’m happy you have that market cornered, by the way) should LOVE to spar with you and will probably LOVE your Cocky and Funny attitude. Keep it intellectual.

There will ALWAYS be situations in life when things don’t work for you. Tiger Woods screws up a lot of shots, and he’s the best in the world at golf. Michael Jordan misses a lot of shots, and he’s the best in the world at BBall.

We don’t live in an ideal testing lab, we live in reality.

Don’t worry about what won’t work, and find what will.

The thing to watch for to keep from going too far with Cocky and Funny is a woman getting VISIBLY ANGRY or asking you to leave. If that happens, walk away.

Advice Articles

April 8, 2009

The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women

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“The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably  Make With Women—  And What To Do About It…”

And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes…

MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”

Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted “nice” guys?
Of course you have.
Just like me, I’m sure you’ve had attractive female friends that always seemed to date “jerks”… but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.
What’s going on here?
It’s actually very simple…
Women don’t base their choices of men on how “nice” a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn’t make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn’t make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn’t make a lot of logical sense, and it’s hard to ACCEPT… but GET OVER IT.
Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you’ll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

MISTAKE #2: Trying To “Convince Her To Like You”

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like… but she’s just notinterested?
Right! They try to “convince” the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you… YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN “FEELS” WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”.
Think about it.
If a woman doesn’t “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being “reasonable” with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn’t interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.

MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman’s “approval” or “permission”.
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them… EVER.
Don’t get me wrong here.
You don’t have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well means “always getting her approval and permission for things”, think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her…

MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts

How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn’t treat her even HALF as well as you did?
If you’re like me, then you’ve had it happen a LOT.
Well guess what?
It’s only NATURAL when this happens…
That’s right, I said NATURAL.
When you do these things, you send a clear message:
“I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I’m going to try to buy your attention and affection”.
Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That’s right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

MISTAKE #5: Sharing “How You Feel” Too Early In The Relationship With Her

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they “feel” too early on.
Attractive women are rare.
And they get a LOT of attention from men.
Most men don’t realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE
An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.
And guess what?
Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.
That’s right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying “You know, I really, REALLY like you” after one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that you’re just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast… and can’t control themselves.
Don’t do it. Lean back. Relax.
There’s a much better way…

MISTAKE #6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women

Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men… and they’re attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
But it’s not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY guy can learn how…

MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks

One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they’ve even gotten started… because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money… or guys who are a certain height… or guys who are a certain age.
And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.
But MOST women are far more interested in a man’s personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet…
And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.
YOU DO NOT have to “settle” for a woman just because you aren’t rich, tall, or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women

Earlier I mentioned that it’s a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.
Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.
Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Another bad idea…
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over… Women aren’t attracted to Wussies!

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women

Now I’m going to blow your mind…
A woman ALWAYS knows what you’re thinking.
Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That’s ten TIMES.
I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you’re out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.
And if you don’t know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won’t help!
And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating…
Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical… everything.
If you don’t know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up… and LOSE EVERYTHING.
And you KNOW it.
It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman… from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP

This is the biggest mistake of all.
This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.
I know, guys don’t like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don’t like to ask for help.
Hey, I’ve been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women…
About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn’t know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.
It frustrated the hell out of me.
One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn’t get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night… right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.
I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I’ve dated models, I’ve dated actresses, and I’ve dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.
It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling… like I don’t know how to meet women… and I might wind up alone.
I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.
I’ve written a book on the topic, and I’ve done seminars on both coasts of the United States… and taught tens of thousands of men all around the world.

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What Women HATE Most About Single Guys

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If you listen to a group of attractive, single women talking alone over dinner or drinks, the topic will always turn to MEN.

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And in most cases, it will eventually turn into a RANT session about how hard it is to find good men to date…
Which will lead to a FULL-ON RAG SESSION about men in general…
…And wind up with a detailed list of all the traits guys have that are ANNOYING AS HELL.
The reality is that single women have an entire laundry list of traits, qualities, and characteristics that they HATE in single guys.

Did you know this?
I didn’t think so.

Well, the truth is that up until a few years ago, I didn’t know this either.

So take heart in the idea that you’re about to learn something that most men on this planet will DIE not knowing.
My hope is that what I’m about to share with you will change how you interact with women FOREVER… and help you meet and date more of the kinds of women you’re interested in.
Onward.

FRIENDSHIPS AND ROMANCE

For women, friendships and romantic relationships are two separate things. They are NOT the same.
One can lead to another, but it’s RARE when it happens.
Remember that.
One CAN lead to another, but it’s RARE.
“Romantic” relationships are very different from “friend” relationships.
While most men would sleep with most of their female “friends” if the woman “came on” to them, most women would NOT sleep with most men that they consider “just friends”.

But why is this? How do women differentiate between “just friends” and “I’ll be intimate with you”? And why is it so hard to become “more than friends” with a woman you’ve been “just friends” with for a long time?

The answer to this riddle is very interesting to me.
I believe that the answer comes down to understanding HOW women “know” when they want to “be intimate” with a man… and, even MORE importantly, understanding how women “know” when they DON’T want to “be intimate” with a man…
The thing that tells a woman whether the guy she’s with is “friend” material or “lover” material is how she FEELS.

It’s a combination of EMOTIONAL feelings and PHYSICAL feelings.
It is NOT logic.
She might USE logic to “rationalize” her decision… or she might USE logic to SOUND like she has a good reason for either “being with” or “not being with” a particular guy.

But don’t let that distract you. Logic isn’t important AT ALL in this context. So let me say this another way.
A woman FEELS something emotionally and/or physically, then she uses those FEELINGS as the basis for her “decisions” and actions with a particular guy.
If she feels that “Ewwww Yuck!” feeling, then her “logical” conclusion will probably not be that she wants to date the guy in question.
If she feels that “It’s Gettin’ Hot In Here” feeling, then her “logical” conclusion will probably be that this guy is interesting and attractive, and a good “choice” to date. At this point she’ll take ACTION on her feelings and thoughts…
It goes like this:
FEEL—>THINK—>ACT
First the FEELING, then the THOUGHT… and THEN the action.

Now, with this in mind, let me ask you an important question:
How do most guys behave around women that they’re “romantically” interested in?

And another:
What do they do to get the woman that’s the object of their desires to be with them?
Take a few minutes to think about this. Make a list if you have paper and pen handy.
I’m serious. I’ll wait.
Come back when you’re finished.

Now take a look at your list. I’ll bet that almost every single thing on your list was something “external”.
In other words, your list probably contains things like “Take her to dinner” and “Give her compliments” and “Buy her flowers” and “Call her often”.

These are all things that demonstrate that he’s INTERESTED.
They are NOT things that trigger those emotional and physical feelings inside of a woman that tell her that THIS IS THE GUY.

In other words, men try to use “props” to LET A WOMAN KNOW HE’S INTERESTED…
…HOPING that when the woman sees these displays she’ll be interested in him.

Almost NONE of the things men do to court women make women FEEL ANYTHING even remotely similar to “Attraction” and “Arousal”.
Of course, you know this.

You’ve probably done this stuff about a bazillion times. I have, too. I know what it’s like to try OVER AND OVER to let a particular woman know that I’m interested… only to have her NOT RESPOND in a “romantic” way.

The PROBLEM with this kind of thing is that it makes TWO HUGE MISTAKES at once.

First, it’s just the plain-old wrong way to go. Telling or showing a woman that you “like her” has no effect on how she feels about YOU.
In the moment it sure seems to make sense… “If I show her how I feel, she’ll return the feelings”.

Duh.

Like I said, it seems like the right thing to do in the moment (when your inner little girl has a big fat crush). But it’s not… it will have NO effect on her feelings for you.

And second, it communicates clearly that YOU DON’T GET IT. It tips a woman off INSTANTLY that you’re not hip to what’s going… and it kills your chances with her.

Say what?

You mean that doing nice things for women, and trying to show how you feel can actually HURT your chances with a woman?
Yea, it can.

Look, if you’ve been dating a woman exclusively for six months, and her birthday comes… it’s OK to buy her a gift and tell her that you like spending time with her.

YOU’RE ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP

But if you’ve known a woman for six DAYS and you try this kind of thing, you’re going to shoot yourself in the foot.
Women are EXPERTS at recognizing men who DON’T GET IT. And if you DON’T get it, PLUS you’re trying to compensate for the fact that
you don’t get it with gifts and compliments, then you’re REALLY screwed (or not screwed, as the case may be).
Remember what I’m about to tell you.
Burn it into your mind.

Write it on a sticky-note and put it on your computer monitor…
SINGLE, ATTRACTIVE WOMEN WATCH MEN TRY TO WIN THEM OVER ALL DAY LONG. THEY KNOW WHEN A GUY DOESN’T “GET IT”… AND
THEY’RE ANNOYED WHEN A GUY WHO DOESN’T “GET IT” JUST KEEPS TRYING AND TRYING AND TRYING.

Keep in mind that single, attractive women watch guys do this stuff 24/7. They shake their pretty heads and say “He doesn’t get it… He doesn’t get it… He doesn’t get it” over and over and over.
The point is that if you DON’T GET IT, then nothing you do is going to work for you.
The problem is bigger than you can imagine, and you’re going to need to take a totally different road to get where you’re going…

WHAT ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HATE MOST ABOUT SINGLE GUYS

Let’s return to where we started.
There are a few particular things that REALLY annoy single, attractive women.

One of the reasons that these things annoy women is because they’re DEAL KILLERS.

A woman can like everything about you, but if you do these things (or even ONE of these things), it can DESTROY your chances of success with a particular woman.

Here are a few of the BIG things that single women hate:
1) Giving Up Your Status In Exchange For Her Attention And Approval
If I had to describe the one single thing that both annoys women and DESTROYS a guy’s chances, it would be this.
It has taken me a long time to see this particular pattern, but it’s EVERYWHERE.
Men, in effect, say “Hi, I want your approval and attention. I’m willing to let YOU be the one who’s in control… and let YOU call the shots… and do anything to please YOU… if you’ll give me your attention and
approval”.
But the problem is that women DON’T WANT you to give up your status and “manliness”.
Women aren’t ATTRACTED to men who act weak and tentative.
Women secretly HATE IT when a guy does something to demonstrate that he’ll give away his power in return for approval.
THEY HATE IT!
I could literally write an entire book on this one single concept.
Take a few minutes to think this one over, and maybe write down the ways that you make this mistake with women.
More importantly, think about how you’re going to STOP DOING IT IMMEDIATELY.

2) Being Needy, Clingy, And Insecure
When one person “clings” to another person “psychologically”, the person who is being “clinged to” RESENTS and REJECTS the needy,
clingy emotional parasite…
This is WUSS behavior at its worst.
If a guy is on the phone with a girl he just met, and she says “Hey, I have to go”, he might say “Aw, well… um… OK. Um, will you call me when you get home?”.
Or let’s say a guy and a girl are out on their first date, and they’re walking around in a large department store.
Most guys will follow the woman everywhere, and not leave her side for a minute.
If she wanders away, he’ll come find her IMMEDIATELY.
He’ll stay physically close to her, as if he’s afraid she’ll leave without him.
And an even worse example is a guy who is so emotionally insecure that he actually ASKS a woman to tell him that he’s nice, fun, interesting, etc.
“Do you think I’m interesting?”
“Do you think we could ever have a relationship?”
“Am I your type?”
Women HATE this stuff. It makes them shiver with the heebie-jeebies. It makes them want to RUN AWAY.

3) Not Leading – And Even Worse, Trying To Get Her To Lead
Women have WUSS-DAR.
One of the things that triggers a woman’s WUSS-DAR is a man who FOLLOWS.
The REAL problem is that most women won’t try to LEAD naturally.
So you’ve got a situation where a man is trying to FOLLOW a woman who isn’t LEADING.
He’s looking for little cues so he knows where to go and what to do… but he isn’t getting them.
So what does he do?
He ASKS for them!
He says “So, I was thinking of maybe taking you to Olive Garden for dinner… how does that sound?”.
Everything about the way he asks says to the woman “I’m trying to figure out what you want me to do… please help me know how you want me to act, where you want me to take you, and what you want me to say”.
This is ATTRACTION DEATH!
men who don’t lead, and even worse, try to get a woman to lead, ANNOY THE HELL OUT OF SINGLE WOMEN.
They HATE IT!

4) Using Insecure, Approval-Seeking, Low-Status Posture, Gestures, Voice Tone, And Body Language
There’s a term that single, attractive, in-demand women use to describe men who use weak, approval-seeking posture, gestures,
comments, and mannerisms…
The term is “NICE”.
“He’s nice… but… there’s no chemistry.”
This is one of those areas that’s not easy to talk about.
Since SO DAMN MANY GUYS do this stuff, it’s almost impossible to explain.
It’s like trying to tell a fish that they’re not going to get anywhere in life if they stay wet.
The fish doesn’t even KNOW it’s wet in the first place.
But let me try.
This is important. Go spend a day observing couples. Go places where couples that have just met spend time together.
Bars, clubs, coffee shops, whatever.
Now watch the GUYS.
Watch how they lean towards the women. Watch how they raise their eyebrows in exaggerated response to women’s comments. Watch how they slump over, let their shoulders fall forward, and smile fake-ly at whatever the women say.
If you’re close enough, listen to how men ask questions and make comments with a voice tone that says “I’m insecure and I’m trying
to be extra nice to compensate for it”.
You’ll see it EVERYWHERE.
In fact, you’ll see it so much that you’ll probably write me back to tell me that I’m the one who’s crazy, and that since it happens so much, it must be “the right way”.
Well, it’s not.
If there’s one thing that triggers an attractive single woman’s WUSS-DAR, it’s a man’s posture, gestures, eye contact, voice tone, etc.
It all happens in an INSTANT.
Women read this stuff and interpret it as instantly and accurately as you read and interpret the cover of Playboy.

NO ANALYSIS NECESSARY

I’d say that probably 90% of all men alive today INSTANTLY disqualify themselves with women because of this problem.
Their voice tone, gestures, posture, etc. TELEGRAPH the message that they’re a WUSS.
They do a thousand weird little things to let a woman know that they’re uncomfortable and “not being themselves”.
And you guessed it…
Single women HATE IT!

5) Not Understanding That She’s A Woman And You’re A Man
I’m about to get philosophical on your ass, so be cool. When it comes down to it, most men don’t understand women. But the REAL kicker is that most men don’t understand MEN, either!
Most guys don’t know what it’s like to get in touch with their MALE NATURE.
Combine these two issues, and you get a guy who behaves in ways that DO NOT trigger ATTRACTION in women.
Women have a “nature”. A female nature. Men also have a “nature”. You guessed it, it’s a MALE nature.
Women are coy. They like to play hard to get. They like to enjoy the chase. They love anticipation. They love to “let a guy catch them”…
Men are competitive. Men are dominant. Men like to play rough games, win things, and rule their territory.
Well guess what?
Most men don’t BEHAVE like men when they’re in the presence of a woman that they “like”.
And since most men don’t understand female human nature, they don’t demonstrate that they “get it” when they’re with women that they “like”.
Women like men. Men like women. There are POWERFUL causes at play here.
When you’re around a woman you like, don’t act like a GIRLY-MAN. It’s not sexy, and it’s not attractive…
And single women HATE IT!

6) Not Being Interesting To Be Around
Underneath most behavior that I see most guys acting out is a “core belief” that goes like this:
“I don’t believe that an attractive woman would want to be around me just because she enjoys my presence… so I make up for it by saying and doing certain things that I hope she’ll enjoy… and if she enjoys those
other things enough, then maybe she’ll want to spend more time with me.”
Heavy, man.
Well guess what? Most attractive single women KNOW that if a guy isn’t interesting to be around, they she’s eventually going to go CRAZY being around him.

In other words, no amount of material gifts, compliments, dinners, and other “displays” will EVER compensate for a lack of BEING INTERESTING.
Here’s a profound thought:
I and several other guys I know have many women who call us often… just because they enjoy being around us.
These women would be happy just to be in the same room with us… and enjoy our company.
And yes, these women CALL US.
Often.
Material gifts, food, flowers, and other “displays” have ZERO lasting value to a woman when it comes to how she FEELS about you…
An attractive single woman wants a guy who LIGHTS HER UP. She wants to FEEL GOOD. She wants mystery… she wants to laugh… she wants a challenge… she wants sexual tension…
If you’re using compliments, gifts, food, and other “displays” to get a woman’s attention… you need to ask yourself a tough question:
Is it because you don’t believe that a woman would want to be around you just to be around you?
Because if you don’t know how to be INTERESTING to a woman, then no amount of compensation is going to fix the problem.
If you’re boring, predictable, and uninteresting, then you’re never going to have women calling YOU to hang out.
Oh, and women HATE IT.

7) Not Understanding Attraction
This is a BIGGIE.
You hear me talking about it all the time, right? Maybe now that you’ve read this newsletter you’ll have a better context to understand what I’m about to tell you…
If you “get it” with women, it’s SUPER INTERESTING and ATTRACTIVE to them.
Women can INSTANTLY FEEL IT when they’re with a guy who “gets it”.

Women know very quickly if they’re talking to a guy who understands himself and women… and who enjoys creating and building sexual tension.
Women know if a guy speaks the SECRET LANGUAGE of “Sexual Communication”.
If he doesn’t, then she stops all communication on that level. If he does, then it continues. ATTRACTION Isn’t A Choice.
Attraction is an emotional and physical RESPONSE… and you can’t “convince” a woman to feel it with logic, gifts, and NICENESS.
Attraction is the result of a woman meeting a man who understands how attraction works… and who knows what to do in each specific
situation to progress to the next level.
The PROBLEM with ATTRACTION, and with success with women in general is that the things you need to DO to be successful are NOT
OBVIOUS.
They’re “counter intuitive”, in many cases.

In other words, they’re the OPPOSITE of what you’d THINK would make sense. You have to do things like CREATE TENSION… stop doing something that she likes… give her time to miss you… etc.
And if you don’t understand ATTRACTION, a woman is going to KNOW IT.
And guess what?
Single women HATE IT when a man doesn’t understand ATTRACTION and how to communicate on this “other level”.
Now that I’ve shared the mistakes, you need the next piece of the puzzle. You need to get an education on how attraction works for women… and the RIGHT things to do up front to give her those emotional/physical feelings inside.

Right now you’re probably feeling that excited “Ah Ha!” feeling. That’s because you understand something at a different level… you’ve used your mind to understand something complex… and you feel good about bettering yourself.
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Best Conversation Topics For Dates

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There are really two very different (and important) aspects to the “conversations with women” topic:
1. The HOW.
2. The WHAT.

THE HOW

Most guys want to know “what to talk about” with women.

It only makes sense that you should talk about things that women are interested in… right?
Well… partially.

It is actually FAR MORE IMPORTANT to talk about whatever topic you’re talking about in the RIGHT WAY.

In other words, if you don’t understand HOW to carry on a conversation that creates ATTRACTION, then it really won’t matter WHAT you talk about… because the woman you’re talking to won’t FEEL anything towards you.

The HOW of conversation includes (but is not limited to):
-Your body language
-Eye contact
-The Cocky & Funny style of communicating
-Flirting
-Sending mixed messages
-Directing the conversation
-Dealing with common questions and topics
…and many other things.

My point is that if you’re running into a lot of “uncomfortable silences”, nervousness, and other usual challenges, then you probably need to get the HOW handled before the WHAT.

THE WHAT

With that said, there are several topics that are GREAT to discuss with women. But instead of just giving them to you, I want you to do yourself a favor and THINK for a minute.

What topics do women PAY to hear about?
Hint: Cosmo magazine, romance novels, soap operas, nighttime dramas, the fashion channel… etc. If you think about it, the answer to this question is rather obvious.

For whatever reason, WOMEN tend to LOVE:
-Drama
-Conflict
-Romance
-Famous people and their lives
So… it’s really quite easy to enjoy a conversation with a woman about these topics.

Here are a few ideas:
1. Play amateur psychologist to the stars.
Talk about how someone famous is doing something really stupid, then psycho-analyze them.
For instance… right now, Michael Jackson is something like two hundred million dollars in debt. Even though he makes about twenty million dollars a year, he somehow manages to blow it all and then some. He has spent an unimaginable amount of time and money on plastic surgery and skin bleaching… and he reportedly just spent around seven hundred grand digitally darkening his skin tone in a recent video.
This situation is all kinds of BEGGING to be picked apart with a fine-toothed critical mind.
It’s also PREGNANT with humor opportunities.

2. Find an interesting-looking group of people and guess what’s going on.
Look around you, and find a couple sitting at a table that looks like they’re on their first date.
Then start making fun of how the guy is acting, how he’s dressed, his posture, or whatever. Talk about how the woman is thinking that he’s a dork and how he’s not getting any, no matter how many compliments he gives her.
Analyzing what’s going on with a close group of others is big fun, and women love it.

3. Make fun of someone famous.
Talk about how a super model is too skinny, or how Ozzy has killed all his brain cells and what a shame it is that he’s on TV broadcasting it to millions of viewers. Make fun of Mariah Carey for gaining weight, being put in the loony bin, and putting out a sucky movie.
All you have to do is read a few gossip magazines to get all kinds of great stuff to make fun of. It’s fun, it’s funny, and it’s a great way to talk like you’re all that.

4. Talk about other people’s love lives.
Talk about the problems that others are going through when it comes to love and romance, then volunteer completely ridiculous theories about what’s going on.
Mention a friend you had who broke up with his girlfriend because she gained weight, then after you’ve told the story, make up a random theory about how women who gain weight are actually lesbians.
But make sure it’s funny, whatever you invent.
…I think you can “feel me”.

The point here is that women are NATURALLY fascinated and drawn to certain topics… so USE THEM. The REAL benefit of talking to women about topics that really interest them is that you can USE ALL THE OTHER IDEAS THAT YOU’RE LEARNING while you’re talking!

You can AMPLIFY THE ATTRACTION as the conversation goes on… as long as you know what else to do as you talk.

Oh, by the way… Topics to avoid:
Rape, kidnapping, stalking, death, chess, computers, comic books, Star Wars, monster trucks, and NSYNC. NEVER talk about topics that might really freak a woman out, or topics that make you look like the biggest loser alive in the beginning. You’ll create BAD VIBES that will make any attraction that you’ve created INSTANTLY disappear. Others to really avoid include talking negatively about yourself, talking about how desperate you are or how long it’s been since you’ve been on a date, asking if she likes you or if you’re her “type”… and any other WUSS-BAG topic that makes you look insecure and needy.

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Remember, the key to success with women is creating a powerful emotional ATTRACTION between you and her. If you don’t know how to do this, then NOTHING you do is going to help you very much. If you DO know how and why women feel ATTRACTION for men, then almost ANYTHING you do or talk about can amplify it.

And if you’d like to get the basics of how ATTRACTION works, plus a good set of tools to use for meeting and dating women, then go download my eBook “Double Your Dating”. You can download it here and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now. [This book and the three bonuses that come with it are the FOUNDATION for success with women. Everything you read in these articles will make more sense once you have read the book]

Thursday's Dating Tip

April 2, 2009

Learn To Be Natural

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Finally, practice them in your mind, and in the real world until they feel natural.

Now you’re ready to meet women with something to say other than just ‘Hello’.

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Sit down and take an hour of your life to write down the 10 most common situations you find yourself in with women, then come up with 3 great Cocky and Funny lines for each situation.

Cocky Pickup Phrase of the Week

Say to her: How many April Fools have you met this week? with a sly smile…

More cocky comedy examples here