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April 8, 2009

How To Achieve Ultimate Success With Women Starting With The First Date

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Let me ask you a question: What is “SUCCESS” to you when it comes to women?

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If I asked you to give me a detailed explanation of EXACTLY how your life would be if you had ULTIMATE SUCCESS with women, could you do it?
Sure, most guys would say something like “Success to me would be being able to walk up to any woman and get a date with her”… or “Success to me would be dating as many women as I wanted”… or “Success to me would be having a really sexy girlfriend”, etc.

These are the kinds of answers I hear when I ask guys this question.

But there’s a PROBLEM with these answers. NONE OF THEM REALLY MEAN ANYTHING.

If you learn how to approach any woman and get a date, you’ll soon find that you don’t know what to DO once you’re actually out ON the dates… how to take things to a physical level, how to kiss her, etc…

If you start dating several women at a time, you’ll quickly realize that it’s a MAJOR challenge to juggle all of those relationships and maintain a happy life…
If you find a really sexy girlfriend, there’s a good chance that she’ll have a whole bunch of personal issues and problems that you never anticipated.

You have to be careful what you wish for in life, because you’ll often get it. I’ve found that guys usually make TWO major mistakes then it comes to SUCCESS with women:
1) Most guys haven’t really thought through what success means to them in detail.
2) Most guys base their personal idea of success on what OTHERS want, and not what THEY want for themselves.

In fact, I was one of the guys that made BOTH of these mistakes. I can remember when I first decided to ONCE AND FOR ALL learn how to be “successful” with women. I had this idea in my mind that if I could just learn how to get women’s phone numbers quickly and easily that I would be successful beyond my wildest dreams.

So I went to work on figuring it out. I probably spent a good six or twelve months trying all kinds of different tricks to get women’s phone numbers quickly. And I figured out some great techniques.

I can literally get a woman’s number within a few minutes of meeting her. But once I learned this skill, I was hit with a MAJOR realization: Most of the women I was meeting never turned into DATES. They either didn’t return my calls, refused my requests, or just plain flaked out on me.

It was VERY frustrating.

The other problem I had was looking around at what OTHER guys were doing and saying “I want to be able to do what HE does…” or “I want to date the kinds of women HE dates”. And I secretly had this idea that if I knew how to date HOT women that all my friends would like me more and think I was a really cool guy.

Well guess what?

First of all, just because another guy is doing something doesn’t mean that it would make ME happy. In fact, I realized that in many cases it wasn’t even making HIM happy. I couldn’t help comparing my success and the women I was dating with other guys, and the women they were dating.

But it was a trap.

The more a person looks at what OTHERS are doing and focusing on that, the less satisfied they are with what THEY are doing themselves. And as far as other guys thinking I was “cool” because I was dating attractive women… WRONG AGAIN. Guys (even friends) usually envy you and resent the fact that you have success and they don’t. Especially when it comes to really attractive women.

So much for those losing strategies.

SO WHAT’S THE ANSWER?

Well, it’s taken me a few years to really put all the puzzle pieces together and figure out how to resolve these issues.

Here’s what I’ve come up with:
1) REALLY THINK ABOUT WHAT SUCCESS MEANS TO YOU IN DETAIL, AND WRITE IT DOWN.

Take the time (even if it takes days or weeks… or longer) and think through what you want for yourself. Do a little “self examination” (no, not down there), and be honest with yourself. See if you can figure out where your idea of what “success” is came from. Did it come from watching movies? Did it come from guys you know? Where did you get your model of what “success with women” is?

Once you’ve figured out where some of your ideas came from, then think about what you want.

Think about your life and your lifestyle.

Instead of looking at Playboy and thinking to yourself “I’d sure like to have seven blonde girlfriends in my bed”, try thinking about what would make you HAPPY on an ongoing basis. Take some time to write down the things you like in a woman. Write down what you DON’T like. Get a clear picture in your mind of how you’d like your life to be, and what kind of success with women would make your life more enjoyable.

After researching this topic for a few years now, I’ve come to the opinion that most guys (80%-90%) actually want to have a great long-term relationship with a fantastic woman.
Sure, some guys want to date around and sleep with a lot of women, but the majority of guys would really like to meet an exceptional woman and share a great connection… long term.

But guess what?
You’re not going to walk outside after you’re finished reading this and find that particular woman waiting on the corner for you.

In fact, you’re probably not going to meet her anytime soon.
If you want to find a REALLY exceptional woman that is beautiful, intelligent, funny, emotionally stable, financially independent, loving, etc. then you’re probably going to have to date QUITE A FEW women in order to FIND her.

And when you DO find her, you can bet your ass that she’s IN DEMAND. She probably has MANY guys who are interested in her on an ongoing basis, and she KNOWS that she has options.

TRANSLATION: You’d better have your sh** together when you do meet her, and you’d better not be acting like an idiot.
So think through what success means, what you want, what you don’t want, and how you’d like your life to look ideally when it comes to women and dating.

2) LEARN THE RARE SKILL OF MAKING WOMEN FEEL THE MAGICAL EMOTION CALLED ATTRACTION.

I have spent a long time now searching for the secrets of how ATTRACTION works. You’d probably guess that something as IMPORTANT and as POWERFUL as ATTRACTION would be well-researched and widely written about.

Well guess what?
I can’t find even ONE good book, audio tape series, seminar or website that describes it.

NOT EVEN ONE.

I’ve read all kinds of “opinions” on attraction, but when I really compare what I read and hear to my own personal knowledge and experience, I always shake my head and say to myself “No, that’s not right”. And by the way, if you’ve found a book, tape, seminar, or website, etc. that lays it all out, let me know. I think I’ve reviewed just about everything out there and met a lot of the experts on the topic… but maybe I’ve missed something.

The point is that I think that success in this area of life basically ALL comes down to understanding ATTRACTION. I’m not talking about being “physically attractive”, I’m talking about the EMOTION of ATTRACTION. If a woman feels ATTRACTION for a man, then nothing else matters.

His looks don’t matter, his income doesn’t matter, his age doesn’t matter… nothing matters. On the other hand, if a woman DOESN’T feel ATTRACTION for a man, then nothing else matters!
His looks, income, age, etc. just don’t matter. Nothing he can do can make her feel that emotion.

Sure, a woman can “fall for” a guy over time. But in these rare cases it’s not because of ATTRACTION. It’s because she starts to feel an AFFECTION for him, and settles for a long-term relationship. Incidentally, this usually involves a man who pursues a woman, buys her gifts and dinners, behaves in a way that puts her value above his, etc. And, incidentally, it usually involves a woman who feels like she’s SETTLING.
BUT, if you know how to make a woman feel that amazing and unique emotion called ATTRACTION, then you will be in control of your dating success… and YOU can decide on and control what happens to you.

A man who has his life together and actually understands how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION is FAR more rare than a beautiful woman.
Think about that.

An exceptional man who understands ATTRACTION is FAR more rare, valuable, and desirable than even the most BEAUTIFUL woman.

If you don’t believe me, then ASK some beautiful women how many men like this they’ve known in their lifetimes. They’ll count them all on one hand. You’ll see.

And the best part, in my personal opinion, is that it doesn’t take any unusual talents, physical attributes, or large sums of money to learn these skills.

All it takes is an understanding of how ATTRACTION works, a desire to learn it, and the discipline to learn, practice, and improve over time.

What’s a good way to get started?

Well, you’re doing it. I think that reading these articles is one of the best ways to get a handle on how to make women feel ATTRACTION. What’s an even BETTER way?

I’ve taken knowledge from various fields… from brain research and psychology to animal behavior and mating patterns… and combined it with my real-world personal experience of figuring out what works.
There’s no fluff, and no B.S.

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One of the most common things I hear about this program is “This material has completely changed the way I think about women”.
I certainly wish that I would have had this program about five years ago… when I started out.
It would have saved me about THREE years, and probably thousands of hours of wasted time.
…and if you haven’t downloaded your copy of my online eBook “Double Your Dating” yet, then you need to do that NOW. It’s jam packed with concepts, techniques, and specific step-by-step strategies for meeting and dating women. It’s the foundation for all the other things I teach, and it’s fast and easy to download and read. Download it here. [This book and the three bonuses that come with it are the FOUNDATION for success with women. Everything you read in these articles will make more sense once you have read the book]

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Best Conversation Topics For Dates

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There are really two very different (and important) aspects to the “conversations with women” topic:
1. The HOW.
2. The WHAT.

THE HOW

Most guys want to know “what to talk about” with women.

It only makes sense that you should talk about things that women are interested in… right?
Well… partially.

It is actually FAR MORE IMPORTANT to talk about whatever topic you’re talking about in the RIGHT WAY.

In other words, if you don’t understand HOW to carry on a conversation that creates ATTRACTION, then it really won’t matter WHAT you talk about… because the woman you’re talking to won’t FEEL anything towards you.

The HOW of conversation includes (but is not limited to):
-Your body language
-Eye contact
-The Cocky & Funny style of communicating
-Flirting
-Sending mixed messages
-Directing the conversation
-Dealing with common questions and topics
…and many other things.

My point is that if you’re running into a lot of “uncomfortable silences”, nervousness, and other usual challenges, then you probably need to get the HOW handled before the WHAT.

THE WHAT

With that said, there are several topics that are GREAT to discuss with women. But instead of just giving them to you, I want you to do yourself a favor and THINK for a minute.

What topics do women PAY to hear about?
Hint: Cosmo magazine, romance novels, soap operas, nighttime dramas, the fashion channel… etc. If you think about it, the answer to this question is rather obvious.

For whatever reason, WOMEN tend to LOVE:
-Drama
-Conflict
-Romance
-Famous people and their lives
So… it’s really quite easy to enjoy a conversation with a woman about these topics.

Here are a few ideas:
1. Play amateur psychologist to the stars.
Talk about how someone famous is doing something really stupid, then psycho-analyze them.
For instance… right now, Michael Jackson is something like two hundred million dollars in debt. Even though he makes about twenty million dollars a year, he somehow manages to blow it all and then some. He has spent an unimaginable amount of time and money on plastic surgery and skin bleaching… and he reportedly just spent around seven hundred grand digitally darkening his skin tone in a recent video.
This situation is all kinds of BEGGING to be picked apart with a fine-toothed critical mind.
It’s also PREGNANT with humor opportunities.

2. Find an interesting-looking group of people and guess what’s going on.
Look around you, and find a couple sitting at a table that looks like they’re on their first date.
Then start making fun of how the guy is acting, how he’s dressed, his posture, or whatever. Talk about how the woman is thinking that he’s a dork and how he’s not getting any, no matter how many compliments he gives her.
Analyzing what’s going on with a close group of others is big fun, and women love it.

3. Make fun of someone famous.
Talk about how a super model is too skinny, or how Ozzy has killed all his brain cells and what a shame it is that he’s on TV broadcasting it to millions of viewers. Make fun of Mariah Carey for gaining weight, being put in the loony bin, and putting out a sucky movie.
All you have to do is read a few gossip magazines to get all kinds of great stuff to make fun of. It’s fun, it’s funny, and it’s a great way to talk like you’re all that.

4. Talk about other people’s love lives.
Talk about the problems that others are going through when it comes to love and romance, then volunteer completely ridiculous theories about what’s going on.
Mention a friend you had who broke up with his girlfriend because she gained weight, then after you’ve told the story, make up a random theory about how women who gain weight are actually lesbians.
But make sure it’s funny, whatever you invent.
…I think you can “feel me”.

The point here is that women are NATURALLY fascinated and drawn to certain topics… so USE THEM. The REAL benefit of talking to women about topics that really interest them is that you can USE ALL THE OTHER IDEAS THAT YOU’RE LEARNING while you’re talking!

You can AMPLIFY THE ATTRACTION as the conversation goes on… as long as you know what else to do as you talk.

Oh, by the way… Topics to avoid:
Rape, kidnapping, stalking, death, chess, computers, comic books, Star Wars, monster trucks, and NSYNC. NEVER talk about topics that might really freak a woman out, or topics that make you look like the biggest loser alive in the beginning. You’ll create BAD VIBES that will make any attraction that you’ve created INSTANTLY disappear. Others to really avoid include talking negatively about yourself, talking about how desperate you are or how long it’s been since you’ve been on a date, asking if she likes you or if you’re her “type”… and any other WUSS-BAG topic that makes you look insecure and needy.

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Remember, the key to success with women is creating a powerful emotional ATTRACTION between you and her. If you don’t know how to do this, then NOTHING you do is going to help you very much. If you DO know how and why women feel ATTRACTION for men, then almost ANYTHING you do or talk about can amplify it.

And if you’d like to get the basics of how ATTRACTION works, plus a good set of tools to use for meeting and dating women, then go download my eBook “Double Your Dating”. You can download it here and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now. [This book and the three bonuses that come with it are the FOUNDATION for success with women. Everything you read in these articles will make more sense once you have read the book]