Ask Rob! The Advice General

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Dear Rob,
I‘m overseas at a military base, and at one of the smaller bases segregated from the other bigger bases by about an hour and a half, no way of getting a car so you always have to catch a bus.

Now here is the question: you have a thousand plus guys on one base and less than a hundred girls.

We got one girl at my work taken and the second one is up for grabs, it’s just that every guy at work plus the other people coming in are all hitting on her and she is loving all the attention.

If I was back at the states I would say forget it and move on, but there really isn’t many option in my situation.

Her and I have had some real genuine moments together and she has shared things with me she hasn’t told anyone else, plus this girl is 22 and only dated two guys.

What do I do to when this up hill battle lol???

Thanks, Mike.

Hi Mike,
When you’re in a place with a lot of competition from other men, the key is to stand out from the crowd.

The next time you have a “genuine moment” with her, invite her out for a coffee, away from work.

From there move to dinner, quickly… and invite her to fun places, if you have that around.

Bowling is always good for a laugh.

The battle isn’t uphill… it’s moving forward fast enough that the other guys can’t catch up.
Best wishes,
Rob.