Thursday’s Dating Tip

How To Call A Girl

When you call a girl up and ask “What are you doing?” or “What are you doing later?” or “What are you doing Tuesday night?” you’re basically giving away all of your own power, and setting yourself up.

When a woman hears these words, she instantly realizes that you’re going to ask her out, and that if she has something “better” to do, she should take it.

Much better to say “I’m going to go have dinner later, you should come along” or “I’m thinking of going to X for dinner. I’ll let you join me if you pay…” etc.

I know this is subtle, but it’s important to set up every conversation in a way that doesn’t give away your power and increases her interest in you.

Thursday’s Dating Tip
She asks: “Are you a player?”
You answer: “Are you trying to hide the fact that YOU are?”

One key in situations like this is to NEVER give a woman a direct answer. Use your Cocky & Funny skills to come up with 5 good answers, and use them.
Maybe say: “Yes, I play sports… what do you like?”

As you can see, I like to turn questions and accusations around and guess that they’re trying to hide the fact that what they’re asking about is something wrong with THEM. Just don’t answer directly… and most women will give up.

If you get defensive and say “Oh, no no no… I’m not a Player at all…” most women won’t believe you anyway – even if you’re NOT a player.

Thursday’s Dating Tip

Rich women are just as likely to be nice or crazy or fun or weird as any other woman. Watch out for those who found wealth via divorce. They can tend to be trouble waiting to happen.

But by all means, if a rich woman wants to wine and dine you, then let her. And you’ll have great stories for your friends for years to come.

Thursday’s Dating Tip
Calling or writing a woman immediately is one good way to destroy any anticipation or sexual tension that was present in the moment.

On the other hand, if you call up two days later and say “Hey, what up? I’m busy tonight, and tomorrow, but let’s do something on Friday. Here’s my number, call me… I gotta go…” that’s a totally different type of communication. By day two, she’s already wondering why you haven’t called, wondering if you’re getting back together with your ex that she’s imagining being a model… and generally beginning to wonder if and when you’re going to call.

Waiting builds tension. Do it. And do it after the first call as well. Learn to become comfortable not knowing what’s going on with her… and waiting to find out.

Have Her Pursue You!

If you really want to make a women become attached to you, then you might want to try a paradoxical move…

Stop looking for a relationship.

If you communicate that you want a relationship, the natural response is going to be for a woman to play ‘Hard To Get’.

If the guy does the playing of the ‘Hard To Get’, and you hold off on showing the ‘relationship’ level of interest, you’ll find that the woman will pursue the relationship with you. Think about it.

Create your own Charm School
The toughest thing for a guy to do is be “charming” when he doesn’t have a clue what “charming” is.

Charming is NOT:
- sucking up to women
- giving women what YOU THINK THEY want
- acting without listening
- doing without a great reason

Guys that have a hard time to “charm” a woman really just try to do what they think women want, without understanding what women really want.

You can start with opening doors for her, pulling out a chair for a woman to sit, when getting in a car you open the door for her (when she’s the passenger), these are all classic charm moves.
Put her before you… the exact opposite of what you do now.

When you charm a woman what you are really doing is offering her some good old fashioned “women are special” treatment.

And if that doesn’t melt the clothes right off her, not much else will.

The one thing that every woman knows about you is that YOU are afraid of REJECTION.

That’s right. Every woman you approach, talk to, smile at, even just glimpse in passing, they all know that with a subtle word or smile, or look, she can turn you inside out.

BUT when you can be The Man and not show this fear every guy has, this fear of rejection, then you will hav econtrol over her. And you will be the leader of all of her emotional interest and attraction in you.

To be successful with women it helps to have a life.

Stay busy. Spend time on your own. Do things with friends that don’t involve the woman you’re dating.

Too many guys will meet a woman, then basically say in one way or another to her: “You are my everything now, and I will do whatever I have to do to please you and spend time with you”.

Big mistake. If you stay busy, and keep your own life going it will make you MORE attractive.

You’ve probably heard me say “Give her the gift of missing you”… and this is one good way to do it.

It also keeps your mind on straight, and makes you remember that you have a life, and you can enjoy yourself any time you want without her.