Once a guy is in the ‘friends’ category it’s not easy for him to get out.

In fact, I tell guys to just walk away and forget about it, because it’s such a pain to try to change.

But there’s great news!

There are so many women running around on this planet that it doesn’t matter.

Move on! Don’t get all hung up and puppy-like chasing after one woman, they see through it and know you for the wimp you’re not supposed to be.

The ironic part is that when you do take the ‘I can move on’ attitude and stop treating a woman who only likes you as a friend like she’s special, she’ll often change her mind and start liking you.

Try this:

Pick up your drink, walk over to the table, think of the funniest moment of your life so you have a smile on your face, and say “What, are you girls shy or something?”

When they say “NO, why?”

Answer “Because I’ve been sitting at the next table for at least a half hour and you haven’t come over to say hi to me!”

I have about 3 different friends who all use variations of this opening…

and it works great (if you’re having fun when you say it).

You need to get over your fear.

Once you stop caring what women think of you, then you’ll make a lot more progress.

First of all, Cocky and Funny isn’t a super-secret, covert manipulation tactic. It’s a way of flirting, teasing, and interacting with women that they enjoy.

Second, I’ve found that the only women who DON’T respond well to it are women who are UPTIGHT, women who aren’t at all interested, or overly SHY women who are intimidated (in which case you can usually just tone it down and have fun with them too).

That’s my personal experience. Smart, nerdy girls like the ones you’re attracted to (I’m happy you have that market cornered, by the way) should LOVE to spar with you and will probably LOVE your Cocky and Funny attitude. Keep it intellectual.

There will ALWAYS be situations in life when things don’t work for you. Tiger Woods screws up a lot of shots, and he’s the best in the world at golf. Michael Jordan misses a lot of shots, and he’s the best in the world at BBall.

We don’t live in an ideal testing lab, we live in reality.

Don’t worry about what won’t work, and find what will.

The thing to watch for to keep from going too far with Cocky and Funny is a woman getting VISIBLY ANGRY or asking you to leave. If that happens, walk away.

If you’re getting ignored on instant messenger, then you’re probably being just a bit too pushy when chatting with women.

Lean back.

Tease.

Make a comment online, then say “I have to run”… Don’t act like you want her attention.

Relax.

And did I mention that you need to relax?

Did you hear the story about the old bull and the young bull standing on the hill? The young bull says “Hey let’s run down there and have sex with one of those cows!”

Old bull looks at him and says “Let’s walk down there and have sex with all of them.”

Ponder. Reflect. Repeat.